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Thank u Mitzie46. I do not have a date yet. Ive just started this journey and getting the cardiologist visit, psych approval, etc done. My insurance covers WLS w/o the extra requirements, so Im claiming a July/August surgery date.

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Thank u Mitzie46. I do not have a date yet. Ive just started this journey and getting the cardiologist visit' date=' psych approval, etc done. My insurance covers WLS w/o the extra requirements, so Im claiming a July/August surgery date.[/quote']

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Im in jacksonville Beach. Although the humidity from this tropical storm is the pits! I love the pan handle!!

Hi iamworthit: I lived in Jacksonville, FL for 3 1/2 years. Pretty city with all of those bridges and beaches, but crime ruins it. My favorite beaches are in the Gulf "Emerald" Coast. Was a frequent flyer between JAX and Indpls.

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So many of us have the same things we won't miss ..... I've tried to explain some to.my.husband but he just doesn't get it....so here are my top things i wont miss:

1)weighing more than my husband

2) making sure we get a table at a restaurant cuz i know i wont fit in a booth

3)telling people im afraid of roller coasters because i dont want to be embarrassed by not fitting

4)being tired all the time

5) not being able to wear my seat belt

6)having to drive to fl instead of fly because im afraid they will make me pay for an extra seat

7)wearing clothes because they fit not because i like them

8) my feet and knees hurting all the time

9)tmi ...but the.same sex positions all the time lol

10)telling people i want to stand at bbqs and parties because they only have the seats with arms

11)sweating for no reason but im so big

12) tmi..not being able to see my um lady parts lol

13)getting tired just from going up stairs

14)feeling crappy all the time

15) shopping at lanr bryant and the avenue lol

The list could go on and on but im on my way 6 weeks post op down 36lbs and many more to go but im going in the right direction!

Get ready to cut up the Lane Bryant card! I am 8 months out and I can't believe it. The things on you list were mine too....and by the way, the sex is so awesome.

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I am new to this site' date=' but love it already. Everyone is so supportive and friendly. I must be struggling worst than i realize as I was at work reading this topic and found myself crying...thinking about alllll the things I cannot do now.

My list is sad and extensive!

I will not miss having to sit in the car (in all types of weather) while my fiancee does all the shopping, because my knees and back hurt to much to walk around the store... Not to mention the excessive sweating

Wont miss the medication I can barely remember to take anyway

Having to use a cane and/or wheelchair

Being afraid to go to friends/family homes because I may not fit in their chairs and/or there may be lots of steps to climb. For that matter being afraid to go anywhere, theatres, restaurants, parks, clubs, church, etc.

Ordering 90% of my clothing from catalogs... Then having to return some because they dont fit or are just plain ugly

Not being able to walk with my co-workers at lunch and having to pretend that I'd rather surf the internet....but since I found this site, I would rather....

Not being able to babysit my granddaughter (by myself) because i cant run back and fourth with her

Not being able to visit my parents, grandmother and brothers graves because of th

e walk

Being winded just from the short walk from my truck to my office or bathroom

Having assistance bathing and applying lotion to my feet

Being to tired and lazy to cook or get a cup of water....so doing without or resorting to that ever present bag of potato chips or candy, thats on the table next to the bed Im no doubt laying in. Whewwww Im making myself sad again.. But looking forward to brighter days full of me being able to do all of the above and feeling wonderful.[/quote']

Don't feel sad! You've made a decision that can change ALL those things on your list. Keep looking forward, because you have so much to LOOK FORWARD to now. Anticipation of the changes ahead can keep you motivated. I spent the whole 3 1/2 months between my decision and my surgery dreaming of the changes ahead of me, instead of dreading my future! :-)

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Hi iamworthit: I lived in Jacksonville' date=' FL for 3 1/2 years. Pretty city with all of those bridges and beaches, but crime ruins it. My favorite beaches are in the Gulf "Emerald" Coast. Was a frequent flyer between JAX and Indpls.[/quote']

I agree about the city. Unfortunately a lot of our city isn't as safe as it should be. I live at the beach near Ponte Vedra so I am in a pretty good section of town. With that said, when we go to the beach we take time off from work and head to the panhandle. Sad but true! :)

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Thanks ajustice and terry1113. Having this forum to vent and read that others are dealing with same issues is wonderful. I appreciate being able to get tips and advice on how to handle things, etc. I am experiencing so many new feelings. Coming to the relaxation that i did this to myself is hard. But as u said, im trying hard to look.toward the future. Imaging me doing things i used to do...cleaning my house to my satisfaction, not paying sooo much for my clothing, being able to participate in the fire drills at work and walk down 10 flights of steps instead of bein on the list of indvs that cant and having to wait in the hall (while the sirens are blasting) until the drill is over. Anyway, God willing by the next fire drill i will b zipping or maybe slowly walking down those steps with everyone else. Woo hoo

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Hey guys, adding to my list... I will not miss not having a lap... I will not miss having to have help to put on a bra and socks, although sometimes it's nice I still won't miss it! And I am so there with you, I want to see my "lady parts!!!" LOL I totally love this website!!!

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Hey everyone! great wont miss thread i agree on all of them adding to that i wont miss my work scrubs worned out cause of my thighs freagin Rubbing against each other!! fitting in the tub., rides and definately wont miss being bigger than my boyfriend!! Hate! With a passion the your so pretty! If you only would lose some weight!! Blahhh so fake just dont say anything! So ready to make changes and prove everybody wrong! God first we all be success stories soon cant wait to be in the losers bench bring it on!! My best wishes in eveybody's journey :0)

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I will not miss the bag of clothes I'm getting rid of this week.

I will not miss my boobs resting under my neck when I lay down.

I will not miss the glimpse of that big woman in a window reflection. The one that makes you do a double-take and think with dismay "Oh my goodness, is that REALLY ME?"

I will not miss being too exhausted to do anything after work.

I will not miss the sag on my side of the couch from my big butt sitting there night after night after night. In fact, this time next year I plan to be sitting on a new couch that is not sagging down on one side (and I plan to be sitting on it a lot less!)

I will not miss sugar. It was sweet but evil stuff that never did me any good.

There will be many more things "I will not miss" in the future. :-)

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I do not miss sweating like a pig all the time!!!!

HW 312, pre-op (RNY) 255, current weight 206.8

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I will not miss sitting on the side of the pool while my 5 year old girl asks me to swim... next year I am taking her to a Water park

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I will not miss sitting on the side of the pool while my 5 year old girl asks me to swim... next year I am taking her to a Water park

FYI water slides freaking rock when you can just fly down em and not worry about the fire department having to use the jaws off life to pry your fat butt out when it gets wedged in.

HW 312, pre-op (RNY) 255, current weight 206.8

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FYI Water slides freaking rock when you can just fly down em and not worry about the fire department having to use the jaws off life to pry your fat butt out when it gets wedged in.

HW 312' date=' pre-op (RNY) 255, current weight 206.8[/quote']

Lol I can't wait to go on amusement park rides and water slides too...my daughter loves the water park.... luckily she's too little to go on the slides so by time she's old enough I should be small enough lol

HW 363lbs SD 4/16/13 CW 309lbs

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