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I saw the dietician Today. I feel good he measure my belly. Wow! I have a 33 inch waist it was about 42 inch before surgery & diet. He advice me on food & such. He told me he doesn't want me eating anything with fat. So make sure it's zero. I guess now I have to watch out for sugar & fat.

I come home feeling good next appointment in 2 weeks. Tell hubby why the f** did I do that for. He starts with why do you need a dietician for? You don't know how to eat? Who you were raised by didn't they teach you the right way to eat? I was like ok I'm sorry I mention anything. I won't say anything else. He says my 4 year old needs one. (She has a nutrionist & she's still not gaining enough weight,but she's fine.)

Now I'm feeling sorta bad. Like only this group & Facebook has support. I feel sad like no one cates but I'll be fine. Thanks for reading

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Congrats on your wonderful accomplishment! Sorry your hubby is an ass and a half. :-(. I was in that type of realationship at one time and I know that it can break your spirit. Hold your head up and know that you are a strong beautiful intelligent women Always!

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Congrats on your wonderful accomplishment! Sorry your hubby is an ass and a half. :-(. I was in that type of realationship at one time and I know that it can break your spirit. Hold your head up and know that you are a strong beautiful intelligent women Always!

Thank you I seem to be putting one hundred percent into this life change but he doesn't see it. I feel he thinks it's one of those many diets it's for a few days or months & I will blow up again. I'm not here to prove him wrong or right. I'm doing what's best for me. I haven't changed. I cook daily & take care of the kids. the only thing changing is my body. My personality. I was like not talking to much now I walk in anywhere. Hello make a joke or two. I feel happy even though when I come home I'm sad & depress. I'm happy exercising. I'm happy when he isn't home. He makes me feel bad about my self.

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What!!! 33 inch waist - thats Cra Cra (as the kids say!). You are doing such a good job! You know you hubby doesn't know the right stuff to stay so don't worry about it. That's what we r here for. Having a nutritionist doesn't mean you don't know how to eat. It just means you want to learn new or better things. We go to school to learn etc. So what things are you going to start eating?

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He wants me to eat every 3 hours & have fruits & veggies but I cant eat that yet but I will attempt.

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@mamiof3kids, all I can say is when I had my RNY 8 yrs ago I went through the same exact things u r going through. I decided I would give him time because it was a huge adjustment for all of us. I gave him three years after that and he never came around. All I can say is talk to him & express how you feel, if he is smart he will listen if not u will get tired like I did. Good luck and focus on your journey. Us latin women tend to put everyone else before ourselves and we do not realize that we owe it to ourselves to be happy!

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@mamiof3kids' date=' all I can say is when I had my RNY 8 yrs ago I went through the same exact things u r going through. I decided I would give him time because it was a huge adjustment for all of us. I gave him three years after that and he never came around. All I can say is talk to him & express how you feel, if he is smart he will listen if not u will get tired like I did. Good luck and focus on your journey. Us latin women tend to put everyone else before ourselves and we do not realize that we owe it to ourselves to be happy![/quote']

My hubby will never be an understanding man. He feels he is better then me(that's my feeling) I think he will never accept my change & new life style. I'm at the point that I don't care anymore. I will attend my appointments & do what I have to do & ignore his idiot ass.

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You're doing great. Don't let your husbands negative attitude break your spirit. Your health is the most important thing. Keep up the great work.

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You're doing great. Don't let your husbands negative attitude break your spirit. Your health is to most important thing. Keep up the great ork.

Thankyou

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Spouse Abuse is not always Physical it can also be Mental.

My wife was in a Abusive marriage for 15 years both Physical and Mental till one day she had enough changed the lock on the front door put his crap on the prouch got a Lawer and never looked back. They did have 2 great kids now 21 & 18 who think their dads a dick.

There is help out there if you need it. Nobody has the right to ABUSE YOU

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Spouse Abuse is not always Physical it can also be Mental.

My wife was in a Abusive marriage for 15 years both Physical and Mental till one day she had enough changed the lock on the front door put his crap on the prouch got a Lawer and never looked back. They did have 2 great kids now 21 & 18 who think their dads a dick.

There is help out there if you need it. Nobody has the right to ABUSE YOU

Yes my hubby verbally abuses me & yes I know I shouldn't put up with his crap. I'm hoping things will change but only god knows. Everyone marriage has fail & I wanted to be successful in my marriage. I'm not perfect & I just wanted a happy family. I will not be here toll my kiddos ate teenager if my hubby doesn't change.

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Spouse Abuse is not always Physical it can also be Mental.

My wife was in a Abusive marriage for 15 years both Physical and Mental till one day she had enough changed the lock on the front door put his crap on the prouch got a Lawer and never looked back. They did have 2 great kids now 21 & 18 who think their dads a dick.

There is help out there if you need it. Nobody has the right to ABUSE YOU

Yes my hubby verbally abuses me & yes I know I shouldn't put up with his crap. I'm hoping things will change but only god knows. Everyone marriage has fail & I wanted to be successful in my marriage. I'm not perfect & I just wanted a happy family. I will not be here toll my kiddos ate teenager if my hubby doesn't change.

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I'm the kind of person that will call a idiot a idiot to his face I'm not pc. And I don't believe any one should take abuse from anyone what makes one person better then any other NOTHING . I have seen that my wife's ex has done to her and after 14 years we have been married she has come out of the shell he put her in. As for kids is it better to take the abuse to keep the family together and be unhappy. As young as my wife's kids were they still new what was going on 14 years later they think their dads a dick and have grow up to be great kids

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The science of nutrition has changed since we were kids and culturally you have possibly learned some dietary things that aren't considered the healthiest option (this goes for every culture). There is no shame in getting professional help to better yourself.

Your hubby just isn't on board with all this change and may be scared that you will become so confident that you will cheat or leave him. He could be seeing more about himself that he doesn't like. This is no excuse for him to be a butthead either way. This seems like a wonderful and safe place to vent and talk to others for support!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

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