Spouses...

[gomekast 559]

So, I'm getting sleeved on the 22 of this month. My husband is now analyzing everything I say since telling him the surgery date.

Last night we watched restaurant commercial...and I said that before I go in on the 22nd, I'd like to go have a full meal there because afterwords, it just won't make sense for me to even do take out. I'd have two bites and be full.

He turns and says..."sounds like your breaking up with an old friend.."

I had to contain laughter, I was honestly pretty amused by him saying that. I told him he was reading too much into what I said.

Anyone else dealing with a clueless spouse that thinks their being helpful but just aren't?!

[PdxMan 4,292]

Well ... hate to say it, but in a way, he is absolutely correct. He may be a little more clued in than you think, or are willing to admit.

Why don't you think you will be able to go out afterwards? I go out to dinner all the time. Went to a restaurant the day after surgery, as a matter of fact. Had the broth from French Onion Soup. When I go out with my wife now, we split a meal and usually have a doggy bag.

You will still be able to do the things you used to do. Your breakup from restaurants won't last long.

[jdmama911 224]

I was sleeved on 9/11. My husband has been beyond supportive of me.

--That being said, he has no clue. But, I realize now that he may NEVER really understand lol

If you think about it, this surgery is extremely complicated and takes over every aspect of your life, and for someone not going through it...how can they truly understand??? I don't even understand some of the time and I went through it lol

Love your spouse, and know they are just looking out for you. They want to see you succeed and be happy and healthy. These boards are helping me tremendously with relating to others. I'd say if you want understanding...you're stuck with Internet boards unless you go to support groups. Best of luck on your surgery next week.

And P.S. I went to a few of my fave. restaurants before surgery as well

[McButterpants 2,846]

When I first started down this path and talked to my husband about my inability to lose weight, he made some statements about just going to the gym and pushing yourself away from the table.

One day we were walking and he said, "You know you never see a fat roofer." I was like, "Yep, I've never seen a fat window washer or rodeo clown either, what's your point?"

After many discussions and his own research, he now understands that it's more than just going to the gym and pushing myself away from the table. I can't diet and go to the gym enough to lose this weight and if I did, it would not be unsustainable.

I think it's a lot of about education...