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I have a date Friday night! Whoo hoo!! However, we are going out to dinner. I will be 6 weeks out, so I really don't eat much. I've gone out before and order an appetizer and don't even finish that. Do I tell him that I've had WLS and that's why I don't eat much? Or do I just say "Food really doesn't appeal to me. Can't you tell?"

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Depends how you view this person, whether its your first date and whether you would like to be upfront or not? If not, just say you're nervous and it wrecks your appetite!

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No, I wouldn't tell ... yet.

I would order a Soup and just explain that somebody brought some [fill in the blank] at work and you couldn't resist, so you just aren't that hungry right now. Or just say that your stomach has been feeling a little different today so you want to have something lighter.

To me, WLS is a highly personal thing that I don't feel I have to share with someone I am going on a first date with. After a couple dates, if I decide this might go somewhere, then I would explain, but you don't know if you are going to see this person ever again, so what good would it do to tell them on the first date?

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I have a date Friday night! Whoo hoo!! However' date=' we are going out to dinner. I will be 6 weeks out, so I really don't eat much. I've gone out before and order an appetizer and don't even finish that. Do I tell him that I've had WLS and that's why I don't eat much? Or do I just say "Food really doesn't appeal to me. Can't you tell?"[/quote']

..or you could be like lots of skinny girls who barely eat on a dat -- he may not give it a thought.

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I was banded about 9 mths before I started dating (widowed for 3 yrs before). I never told my coffee dates but the few meal dates I had I told them. Basically just to make conversation.

I met my now husband over coffee and actually told him. He had recently lost 80 lbs so we had something in common.

At this point I wouldn't say anything unless ur so proud of urself u need to share ur story (as I was). But if it looks like it might form into a relationship, I would say something. I never had a bad reaction from any guy I told. And ur so busy talking that I bet he won't even notice the amt u eat

Have fun!

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