Whats my motivation!!! I am tired of being fat point blank period!!! I am tired of working out and getting frustrated when I only see 10-15 pounds and give up t gain 30 back..I have clothes with the tag on them when I lost 40lbs but I gained 40+ back... I want to cross my legs.. I want to look down and see my vag jay jay..lol.. Without having to hold my stomach... I want to look sexy in panties and bras.. I don't want to be ashamed of my body... I want to work and wind m damn hips during sex and not be tired after 5..lol..

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I have always carried my weight well and others tell me I exude confidence, but inside I have all the body shame and critical self talk.

Same here! I'm an awesome person, imo, and I feel pretty confident in general, but when it comes to my weight and body shame I'm a mess. "no one will ever love me at this size", and it gets worse from there. One major reason for having this surgery is that I want my outsides to be as awesome as my insides, lol.

Girls dont like fat guys lol

One reason I got this surgery is the opposite - guys generally don't like fat girls. That being said, my 'type' is tall fat guys. I'm a tall, fat girl and I only ever feel 'dainty' and feminine when I'm with a much bigger guy. Sooo, we're out there, but I totally get where you're coming from.

Whats my motivation!!! I am tired of being fat point blank period!!! I am tired of working out and getting frustrated when I only see 10-15 pounds and give up t gain 30 back..I have clothes with the tag on them when I lost 40lbs but I gained 40+ back... I want to cross my legs.. I want to look down and see my vag jay jay..lol.. Without having to hold my stomach... I want to look sexy in panties and bras.. I don't want to be ashamed of my body... I want to work and wind m damn hips during sex and not be tired after 5..lol..

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yeah...what she said...lol. oh and plus I'm a 42 yo with type II diabetes, highblood pressure,high cholesterol, sleep apnea & asthma...I raised my two children ages 25 & 22 as a single mom, I never put myself as a priority during thier childhood, because life wouldn't allow it. I became depressed with the struggle of raising my kids alone and used food as my emotional crutch...I have decided that it's time for me to focus on myself and I really want to be healthy by the time my children figure out thier life path and settle down and make me a "glam-ma" one day! Whew..that was therapeutic

LOL

Why?

Not one health issue, though some day that might have been factored in.

Why...because I'm totally, 100% shallow. I wanted to have fun shopping for myself, for the first time ever! Mission accomplished. Shopping, even just going to try on clothes because I can.....is fun!

An added bonus, well, there are many of them, but it is wonderful to not be the biggest girl in the room, and many times I am the smallest girl in the room.

Why?

Not one health issue' date=' though some day that might have been factored in.

Why...because I'm totally, 100% shallow. I wanted to have fun shopping for myself, for the first time ever! Mission accomplished. Shopping, even just going to try on clothes because I can.....is fun!

An added bonus, well, there are many of them, but it is wonderful to not be the biggest girl in the room, and many times I am the smallest girl in the room. [/quote']

Love your response!! Lets hear it for shallowness! I gotta admit, I really, really want to shop in the cute clothes section again!!