Ok, ranting here as an alternative to kicking my husband in his junk. I've busted my a** to lose almost FIFTY pounds so far, and he hasn't said a word without me asking for it (which is bad enough) but today he says "wow, did you see Snooki? She lost a ton of weight."

WTF?!? First of all, how does he even KNOW who Snooki is?!? And secondly, why does SHE rate a comment when the broad he married doesn't?

I love him, but sometimes he is truly clueless.

I feel a hissy fit coming on. And I can't even kill it with chocolate!

Well said!! And if it was my hubby i, d say " well woopy #&@!&@ do for snooki why dont you see if she, ll put you up on her couch for the night, seeing as you notice how much weight shes losing!!! I think he, d get the point;-)

I like the 'woopy do for Snooki'!

Has discussing your weight been an issue in the past that maybe led to agreements? Just another possible perspective. It might be why he doesn't feel safe talking about it now, even if its positive. Way to go on the 50 pounds loss!

Brighteyes - no, we don't argue much (been together for 20 years). He's just not great at noticing or complimenting on things, which is fine - but then I don't want to hear those things about other people either!

That was really not called for.

Thank you Susan! I don't know how to report on the iPad. Figured I'd just ignore it.

I know, not very zen of me, huh?

No, I meant your hubby!

Good grief....she was just getting it off her chest, people!

No, I meant your hubby!

OH! lol, I thought you meant me for getting all worked up!

Yeah, he still doesn't really get why it bothered me. I explained it and he was like 'well it was just an observation. She looks so different.' Seriously, for an intelligent man, he can be really dumb sometimes. I mean - I'd like to think I look different too, but isn't THAT worth an observation? I live with him for crying out loud!

Besides the one obnoxious comment, I don't see how anyone was being anything but supportive Molly3.

OH! lol, I thought you meant me for getting all worked up!

Yeah, he still doesn't really get why it bothered me. I explained it and he was like 'well it was just an observation. She looks so different.' Seriously, for an intelligent man, he can be really dumb sometimes. I mean - I'd like to think I look different too, but isn't THAT worth an observation? I live with him for crying out loud!

Zen,

It's your post & your rant....YOU don't need to explain yourself to anyone!

I'm sure that you are looking awesome & a little encouragement or a little compliment here or there wouldn't hurt! I would've felt the same way. But really, Snooki.......Enough said!

Besides the one obnoxious comment, I don't see how anyone was being anything but supportive Molly3.

Would it make YOU feel better if I edit my comment!?

Would it make YOU feel better if I edit my comment!?

Nope. I was simply making a point.

Besides the one obnoxious comment, I don't see how anyone was being anything but supportive Molly3.

It was clear to me that Molly was directing what she said to the obnoxious poster.

I'm over 50 pounds lost now and my hubby hasn't said anything. One day I finally asked him, "So do I look any different?" He replies "Well yeah!"

For goodness sake...wouldn't want to, y'know, SAY SOMETHING!!

It was clear to me that Molly was directing what she said to the obnoxious poster.

I didn't interpret it that way which is why I said something. However, if that was the intent a simple 'my comment was directed at the obnoxious commenter' or something similar would have been sufficient. Instead, something different was said which only leads me to believe my original interpretation wasn't off the mark.

Brighteyes, do you not have anything to do today? Would you like to continue!?

Chill out people, and return back to the OP's subject. If you really feel the need to continue to argue, then take it to pm.

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WELL, my first thought is to think of some guy snooki would look good with and rave about how he looks. But that's not too productive. And it's not really how I got to 30+ years with hubby. So, instead I would say "It would make me feel great if you said something nice like that about me!" Plus he may not have noticed as much he should because 1. He has an idealized picture of you in his mind that he sees most of the time no matter what you look like and 2. He sees you every day and the overall change, while dramatic, is less noticeable when he sees it every day.

Lynda

Brighteyes' date=' do you not have anything to do today? Would you like to continue!?[/quote']

Comical. I responded to a comment. Failing to see your need to be belittling in the process.