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I'm calling shenanigans on the whole 3 docs said it would decrease life expectancy by specifically EIGHTEEN years! Why the hell would you have the surgery with doctors telling you that?

OP... good luck and please know that you can make it through this bump in the road! I highly suggest you talk to your doctor about getting on an antidepressant. Also, I am a night nurse and I have trouble sleeping day and night, try 1/4 to an 1/8 a tablet of unisom. It's enough to get you to sleep without making you drowsy or dehydrated. A good nights sleep may help with your depression.

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I can relate. I am nearly 13 weeks out...woke up regretting it & still do. I had trouble with sleep at first' date=' but then, as I began exercising more I am back to sleeping like always. So, you may want to exercise more. I do have more energy now, so I don't sleep as hard or as long as I did before surgery. I don't mind the vitamins; I've taken Vitamins & supplements for years now since I first saw Dr. Oz on Oprah years ago. It may help to get one of those days of the week tray things & do them as soon as you get up in the morning. I haven't had the hair loss yet, but I know (and dread) it coming. I don't have a boyfriend, but I think my sex drive would be fine if I had a man! lol I haven't experienced in change in breakouts - maybe check with your nut or even a dermatologist to see what it is your body is needing to clear it up.

I don't get in the fluids or Protein, either. Eating and drinking are still uncomfortable for me. It has gotten better, but it is still a struggle. I worry about the getting older, too. It freaks me out that I willingly cut 18 years off my life with this surgery, but I did it. I have to be accountable. And maybe the 18 yrs I have read about & been told about is wrong! At least, that is my hope!

I truly get it. Don't let the sleeve cheerleaders who love their sleeve get you down with their comments or questions - because they don't get you & your situation....just take it day by day. It is getting easier for me to deal with this decision, maybe it will get easier for you, too.

Best of luck to you.[/quote']

What do you mean cut out 18 yrs if your life?

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Sorry' date=' but what does OP mean?[/quote']

Original poster... the person that started the post! :)

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Thanks MadJules.

NP... lol... that means no problem!

I sure hope the OP seeks help, gets past her regrets and comes back here to help others that are feeling regretful. I believe this is a place to come to vent anything you are feeling even though regretting getting the sleeve is not what we want to hear I sure hope she was able to find help/comfort.

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Here's info from the Bariatric Surgery Association:

Summary and Recommendations.

Substantial comparative and long-term data are now published in the peer-reviewed literature demonstrating durable weight loss, improved medical comorbidities, long-term patient satisfaction, and improved quality of life after SG.

The ASMBS therefore recognizes SG as an acceptable option as a primary bariatric procedure and as a first stage procedure in high risk patients as part of a planned staged approach.

Based on the current published literature, SG has a risk/benefit profile that lies between the laparoscopic adjustable gastric band and the laparoscopic Roux-en-Y gastric bypass.

As with any bariatric procedure, long-term weight regain can occur and, in the case of SG, this could be managed effectively with re-intervention. Informed consent for SG used as a primary procedure should be consistent with consent provided for other bariatric procedures and should include the risk of long-term weight gain.

Surgeons performing SG are encouraged to continue to prospectively collect and report outcome data in the peer-reviewed scientific literature.

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I am postitive the OP will get past this little bump in her weightloss journey. Some times a major surgery with heavy anesthesia can do odd and complicating things to a person. Depression and melancholy in part along with lack of enthusiasm. gotta get past that and things will get on track :D

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I was sleeved April 3 this year & keep having these feelings what did I do 2 myself ' date='y didn't I try harder & needing a nap everyday with low energy makes it worst plus count this do that my doc & nut made it seem so easy its not its very hard & a lot of work please keep me & my FAM in our prayers I know I did this 4 a good reason it just don't feel like it I'm tired of taking all these Vitamins giving myself B12 shots &feeling lonely everything change after this my friends,sex drive ,my attitude & most of all my body I keep having break outs & no 1 knows y[/quote']

Im learning my body all over again...needing naps...needing to sleep 8hrs...hormones are up n down...ive had the thoughts of y did i do this to myself but i have to look in the long run i made the right decision....im only 3 wks post op

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The breakouts can be caused by a high Protein diet. I experienced breakouts during the first few months, and I am old and dried up! Until then I had not had a zit in decades! It will pass. Just like all the other maladies you are experiencing.

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I can't believe any bariatric specialist would tell a patient that wls will shorten their life span by 10 to 18 years.....

I want to know where these doctors got their information.......

It makes me so angry to here this......

I believe it makes us healthier with a longer life span............ :)

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Really taking Vitamins only takes a minute or two out if your day, it doesn't have to be a big deal.

And the B12 sublingual? I was told to only take that once a week.

My doctor has me taking the B12 sublingual every day. I took it before surgery, too, bc I'm a vegetarian. I think it's usually recommended every day? Your doctor can give you a shot if you don't want to give a shot yourself or take the Vitamin.< /p>

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http://longevity.about.com/od/researchandmedicine/a/gastric_bypass.htm

People who underwent gastric bypass surgery had a 40% reduction in the rate of death compared to their obese counterparts. More specifically, they had a 56% reduction in death from coronary artery disease, a 92% reduction in death from diabetes, and a 60% reduction in death from cancer.

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http://www.news-medical.net/news/20100119/Gastric-bypass-surgery-may-increase-life-expectancy-of-morbidly-obese-individuals.aspx

According to the resulting model, an average 42-year-old woman with a BMI of 45 would gain an estimated additional three years of life expectancy as a result of undergoing bariatric surgery; a 44-year-old man with the same BMI would gain an estimated 2.6 additional years.

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Gosh! I am getting the sleeve to add years to my life, not cut them down :(

ALSO< Girls, how did you get to get the B12 shot? That is so good for you? Do you have to pay cash for it? How much is it? Sorry for so many questions but I haven't even had the sleeve yet and know I need these shots. But, insurance won't cover them anymore.

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