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justsloveme    10

justsloveme
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I'm so Tired of people tellin me not get this surgery nothin goin Change my mind I wanna be Healthy and Smaller and feel good about myself Then this guy I really like have nerves to call me today and tell me I don't know why u getting this surgery u sill goin be fat that hurt my feelin so bad I always try make him feel good about his self I always try do Everything make him happy and show him I really care about him I feel that he think I'm not Good enough for him because im fat smh and I think no Nobody else want me so I deal with him until I lose weight I know that bad It makes me feel worse about myself when im around him I'm justs So tired of everything Im tryin be happy about me getting my surgery more people try put me down then my mother wanna go wit me when I have my surgery tomorrow but she sick and her leg swollen I have nobody Else to come wit me So I might go by myself all I wanna do is Cut my phone off and try take a nap and hope I feel better when i Wake up

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Spatters3    315

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You will be just fine. And won't it be sweet when you lose weight and you're looking fine. Then what will they be saying? ha ! Actually, I am sure the negative people in your life will find something else to try to hurt you with. Be strong, be happy !

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Robin26    7

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Your doing this for you.Forget about your boyfriend.You are more important.You

are going to feel,and look better when you have the surgery. When they see you months after your surgery they will be eating there words. Some people have nothing good to say or there very negative.Don't let anyone change what you want in life.This is your journey,and forget what one says , because they are not your friend.Good luck with your surgery, you'll do great!

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nursepez    152

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I agree...be strong. Do this for you and you alone. You have the power...and soon the tool...to be successful. Hang in there.

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aquitenonnymouse    206

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Do this for yourself, not anyone else. Also- toxic relationships are toxic no matter what your size is. You deserve someone who values you and makes you feel good about yourself, the way you value them and make them feel good. You don't need saboteurs in your life.

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jamilaha    29

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Sounds like you have some haters in your life and your guy "friend" and I use that word friend losely is the biggest one. The truth is once you lose the weight and gain confidence... things are going to change for the better. You have valid reasons for getting this surgery and I wish you the best....

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nsweety123    19

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I was told that when you get this surgery you find out who your real friends are maybe its the same for lovers. I can not wait til my significant other comes out his face and say something negative its the day he will feel my fury cause I have given him every opportunity to get out how he really feela and even took him to see the surgin. I wish you luck because when you love someone their feelings usually come befor yours but your on your way to taking care of you. Good luck I want to know in the future how this turns out.

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justsloveme    10

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Awww thanks for The support y'all justs Readin Y'all comments making feel better already lol I'm starting a new journey in my life so that mean out wit the old in the wit new no more bein sad So I have to kick that a*****e To the curve lol

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SabrinaM    20

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You will be fine don't let other people control your happiness. Like that saying goes misery loves company :) everybody's just hating because they know your gonna look good after your surgery. And your confidence is gonna go through the roof. So just be happy and remember this is your time to focus on you.

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TES    858

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Awww thanks for The support y'all justs Readin Y'all comments making feel better already lol I'm starting a new journey in my life so that mean out wit the old in the wit new no more bein sad So I have to kick that a*****e To the curve lol

He does not sound very supportive. You deserve better...at any weight! Congratulations on taking this step towards better health. You will do great!

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Sunshine0328    12

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Support comes in many forms. Find yours wherever you can! Good luck with your surgery.

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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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