I've always been a hard worker, but I'm ready to give up on my marriage. For the 6th time in 7 years my husband wants to leave his job. We are in a horrible financial situation. But now, I have put my foot down. Enough is enough. I said u gave to wait until we are out of our financial pickle. He basically said no. So I said I'm done. I'd rather be alone than to keep having him base these decisions solely on how he feels. I'm 30 and feel amazing since my sleeve. I'm down 118 lbs. and I have my life back, sorta. Any help from married folks would be great!! =(

I take issue with that sentiment...just because someone stays in a relationship with you when you were fat (whether he/she loves you or not) does not mean you "owe" them some sort of loyalty...you say that as if being fat is some kind of moral failure or defect...I could somewhat see your point if you had said something like "he stood by your side when you battled cancer..." also in some cases' date=' like when a spouse keeps changing jobs, it is a deliberate choice being made and not something like getting an illness, gaining weight, getting laid off when your employer goes bankrupt[/quote']

I don't even like the "cancer" reference. Why wouldn't your spouse stand beside you through cancer? Maybe he/she stood beside you through "addiction and recovery" as there is a choice about whether or not to use and then subsequently abuse.... But then that could tie back into food addiction... Sigh. How about we just use the marriage vows. "For better, or worse."

Amanda Rae

I say leave! It's clear that You have tried to make things work! But let's be honest it takes 2! And he seems not to be trying. I'm sorry but it seems like he needs to grow the hell up!! He has a family to care for! Why is he wanting to leave his job?! Does he not know how hard it is to find a good job!?

Me and my husband have issues but He takes care of home! I will give him that. His job closed down 3 years ago but he took another job that same week. It didn't pay like we were used to but it was a start. Now with all his raises we are making almost the same. However he hates this job with a passion! He is steady looking for another one. He has even done job interviews out of state! That's how bad he wants to change but he knows he can't just up and leave his current job and he wouldn't even if he could. I just don't understand men that don't want to take care of home! My brother in law is the same way. He always wants to change jobs and let m sister take care of everything.

Hopefully everything works out but if he leaves his Job without another one lined up he would be on his own!!

What she said, it is a matter of maturity and simply being the head of the house hold. He is the male and thus should act accordingly. If he doesn't want to work then it's time for you to make the hard decision read the quote below. You deserve to be happy and that doesn't mean it will be with him.

If she's amazing, she won't be easy

If she's easy, she won't be amazing

If she's worth it, you won't give up

If you give up, your not worthy

Truth is everybody is going to hurt you; you just got to find the ones worth suffering for.

So ask yourself this question is he worth suffering for?