Today was the second time that someone told me that they didn't think i was "big enough" to justify having this surgery. I take this as a backhanded compliment. I'm what's considered to be a low BMI. However, im qualified for this surgery and have full support of my doctors. My bmi is 37.5. I am a 31 yr old female. I weight 238 right now, my highest weight. I'm 5'7". I have about 80-90 lbs to lose to be a healthy weight. I take it as a compliment because its as if they are saying "ehh your not so bad" but it also really hurts my feeling and makes me second guess myself. I'm very overweight, I have high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and am at risk of becoming a diabetic. I've struggled with my weight my whole life. I've been bullied, I have low self esteem and I've tried every diet in the book. Twice. I don't know I guess I'm jus feeling discouraged. The funny part is that I was told this as I was leaving my pysc evaluation, in which the physiologist told me he fully supports me having the surgery, thinks I've very well prepared and educated. As I was leaving his office I made small talk with another sleeve patient waiting to go in. As we were chatting he said "to be honest you don't really look like you need this surgery, you look ok now". I thanked him but explained that its been a life long struggle with ups and downs. As I left it really made me second guess my decision. Just because I "don't look that fat" doesn't mean I don't fall into the "obese" category or have health problems because of my overweight. Ugh I guess I just needed to vent. Any other low BMI's every experience this?

I diffused the situation by simply saying "I really appreciate your concern for my well-being.I'm an adult and have made a medically-endorsed, researched and educated decision regarding my health and I hope that you support me in my decision and I Can count on you during my journey." Most people are ultimately sensitive , but understandably leary @ procedures that may be foreign. Use this opportunity to educate.

I diffused the situation by simply saying "I really appreciate your concern for my well-being.I'm an adult and have made a medically-endorsed, researched and educated decision regarding my health and I hope that you support me in my decision and I Can count on you during my journey." Most people are ultimately sensitive , but understandably leary @ procedures that may be foreign. Use this opportunity to educate.

My bmi is 32 I'm 5'6" and I knew ppl were gonna think I don't need this or it's an easy way out. So I only told a select few of my very close family and friends. I'm going to Mexico and paying ALOT of $$ for this. I made the decision for me and nobody else.

My bmi is 32 I'm 5'6" and I knew ppl were gonna think I don't need this or it's an easy way out. So I only told a select few of my very close family and friends. I'm going to Mexico and paying ALOT of for this. I made the decision for me and nobody else.

You know and will do what's best for you, I tell people when you walk a mile in my shoes then you can give your opinion. No one but us know the struggle, pain of carrying this excess weight for so long. Screw what people think, I only told a very select few the ones who I knew would support me the others will be in awe to see me lose so much weight and hopefully jump on the bandwagon of getting healthier.

I was told the same thing before surgery but now that I've lost the weight those same people are saying "Oh my goodness you look so good! You don't look like the same person!" so apparently I was big enough for the surgery. Lol

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Hey Everyone. While I am a not a low BMI I have somewhat run int the same thing. My grandmother (who is paying for everything) told me if I got down to 200lbs I would look wonderful. But I just kind of looked at her and said but my Ideal weight is between 130 and 150. She then got very huffy and told me I would be too skinny if I weighed any less then 180. So I lied and told her I would only get down to 190... I think it's ridiculous for a woman who is so concerned about my health and longevity to then tell me not to get down to a healthy weight. My goal is 140 and we'll see how I look and feel.

Please don't let others get you down. You know you can lose weight with the help of a sleeve and your Doctor and Surgeon know it too or they wouldn't be recommending it. Even fat sleevers with BMI's like mine know not everyone has 250lbs to lose. Some people just need to lose 50 and you guys need help just as much as those of us who have more to lose.