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Am I the only one that is scared they will be the one person the sleeve doesnt work on? I have failed so many diets that Im scared of failing this too. It seems that noone in my life can understand that. They are like here try this or you can have a taste! Im not sure what I can do to make them inderstand that it is different now. If we live in the same house and have seen this transition there is no excuse in not understanding. Sorry for venting. Im just scared of failure. Now my significant other thinks im taking it too far when I dont want to get over 20 carbs a day.

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I felt the same way pre surgery. I think the feeling comes from is seeing all those get rich/make money/weight loss infomercials on late night tv. They tell you that you too can learn their secret for 3 easy payments of $19.99. I know it sounds too good to be true, but I get the product anyway hoping this one is gonna work for me, only to find out that it's not the easy/quick answer that is touted on the show.

So yea, I was scared of being a failure at WLS as well. But so far (1 month), I feel like it has changed my life for the better. I don't have those constant thoughts about, "What am I going to eat next?" And for me, that was the biggest battle.

And as far as people around you giving advice, just refer them to your doctor's instructions or find some way to irritate the crap out of them - so they leave you alone. I recommend a spray bottle filled with Water. Each time they start in on you, spritz them 3 or 4 times.

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Lol that is funny. I needed that laugh! Im two months out and 42 pounds down but constant stalls and fluctuations in my weight make me feel like im doing something wrong.

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I feel the same way, so many failed diets, I'd lose then when I went off the diet for one reason or another, I'd gain it back but I'm keeping a positive attitude that this will work. Besides having to pay for this surgery myself, I better make sure it does lol. I know the bottom line is we need to change how we eat. I've read so many posts from here and each one has lost weight so.. we just need to make sure we keep losing and keep it off. My surgery is on Wed Jan 30th, I'm nervous, scared, but very positive that my life is about to change in a very good way. Good Luck :)

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I think everyone has doubts at some point on their journey. Good thing is that if you stick to your plan - then it's 99% guaranteed that you will lose A LOT of weight!!

Relax and enjoy the journey and know that it will happen for you - and a taste every now and then won't hurt or going over 20g carbs one day. I personally don't restrict my carbs too much as I need them for the types exercise I do.

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You are totally not the only one. :) I don't limit my carbs but I do shoot for at least 80 grams of Protein and about 900 calories.

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Thanks everyone for your replies. I value every one of them. I feel like I shouldnt gain weight at all with how careful I am. I know I dont get in enough calories and im working on that. I also need to work out but cant afford to go to the gym. I am a nurse so im constantly going all day and when I get home I feel like I dont have enough energy to work out

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I think we all think the same thing as soon as we hit a stall... my first stall... I actually gained 2 lbs! I thought... OMG! Not even surgery will work for me! but after 6 days, I saw a change on the scale... and in my clothes... just know that it gets better...

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Omg I am and was TERRIFIED! I want to eat bad foods right now! Instead I will sip Water and occupy my mind with something else. I wonder if I can keep this up forever or one day will I be able to eat a Krispy Kreme donut and decide to eat 6 of them instead?

I think because we have all FAILED at diets, i realize that i still have to do the work, this was no easy fix, just an extra tool to help....my fingers are crossed and prayers are being said!

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I have a Krispy Kreme donut every now and then. I dont deprive myself. That is not why I had this surgery. I started this journey at a size 24 and now I am a size 8 and counting down. I always eat Protein first and treat myself usually one day a week. So far so good. Good luck to you.

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So glad I came across this post! I keep having dreams my stomach is stretched out and that I wont lose anymore weight. i am 6 wks out and quickly get reminded as soon as i eat that my stomach is not stretched. I have only lost 34lbs. But will be happier when i can see the surgery worked and not be fearing failure . So glad i am not the only one!

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I was the same way in the beginning. So worried about stretching my stomach. I can eat more now than when I first had the surgery, but my doctor said this would happen. I cannot eat ALOT of food but definitely more than when I first had the surgery. That is why I eat Protein first. I am almost a year and a half out and I am still losing. Just lost 4 pounds this week. You will be fine. Good luck to you.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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