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Well today 3 weeks ago I had my surgery. For the past 2 days my son and his family plus 2 dogs are staying with us for four day while they are having their kitchen remodeled. I love having them here but I must sit with them over a big meal every night and I can not eat it. I guess after 5 weeks of so little food and not eating is really getting to me.

Well they brought hugh chocolate chip Cookies for their dessert. As we were playing a game last night they started to eat them. Later when everyone was in bed I was on the computer and went out and got a cookie and ate the whole thing. My God it is starting already. My love for crap carbs is coming out already. Sad truth is my sleeve accepted it without a twinge. I am also diabetic so my blood sugar went sky high this morning. What is wrong with me. I can not have gone through all of this and go back to all my old habits.

I need support.

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Everyone had their slips. Don't beat yourself up but I've noticed if I trek myself I'm the exception and I'm not gonna lose weight etc I notice I don't stay on track. You need to stay positive and tell yourself you can and are going to do this one cookie isn't alot in terms of a meal which is probably why you didn't have to many problems keeping it down!! You're going to do this, this is just one of your down times!! Keep your head up!!!

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Listen, you can beat yourself up, but only for a minute or two. You can't change it, but you know how it made you feel and you know the physical ramifications (blood sugar). I keep reminding myself that (fingers crossed) this is the last diet I will ever be on. When I've lost what I need to, I should be able to have a little of something and it not ruin anything or send me on a downward spiral. That was the biggest reason I had for choosing the sleeve. You slipped up. I'm sure most of us will. It's what we do next that is important. Walk a little extra today, make a healthy treat that everyone can share instead of you being left out. I don't envy you having to be surrounded by extra temptation. Being a lover of crap carbs myself, I feel your pain. Take it day by day and don't deny yourself, just have a better choice for you available. Good luck, I'm sure you'll be fine. A slip is not a failure, it's just a slip.

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Those things are going to happen. If I was in your shoes right now, I would talk with your guess and have them remove all the tempting foods in your house. You don't need the extra temptations at this time in your recovery......I'm sure they will understand, after all you are sharing your house with time. Take care of you so it doesn't happen again. Throw those stupid Cookies in the trash if you have too. Let me know what you decide to do. I do hope to take control of what comes in your house. :)

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At three weeks out a large cookie could EASILY cause a leak. It's not a "slip" it's dangerous. You should discuss this with your doctor and be sure to watch for signs of problems for the next few weeks.

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Forgive yourself so you can move on and continue to be successful. I know this is a hard idea to change in our minds, but success does not require perfection, it does require continual work toward your goals and good compliance most of the time. One of the "mind changes" needed is to get away from the all or nothing thinking - like "I ate a cookie, I am a failure so the sleeve doesn't work for me I might as well eat another cookie." Ok, I am being silly, but the point I am making is don't let your old thought patterns control you. This isn't another diet, this is a permanent change and it will have many ups and downs.

The people who are most successful at anything in life pick themselves up, dust off the remnants of those bad feelings and keep on going toward their goals rather then letting that "fall" turn into an all out despair/giving up.

I am surprised you weren't physically ill from a cookie though. I had some Peanut Butter in a Protein shake about 2 weeks post op and the richness of it about killed me - dumping syndrome?

You will find that "slider foods" like Cookies and crackers go down with NO problem. That is why they can't live in my house.... we had a lot of fun for a long time, but my "affair" with junk food well - it is over now.

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I did the same thing! I have since banned chocolate chip Cookies from my house because they are my very favorite! You're going to have slip ups, you just gotta keep moving forward! Good luck!

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At three weeks out a large cookie could EASILY cause a leak. It's not a "slip" it's dangerous. You should discuss this with your doctor and be sure to watch for signs of problems for the next few weeks.

I'd like to know the definition of "large" cookie to see how it equates to what I ate at that far out. At three weeks, I was eating 12 Special K crackers with either creamy Peanut Butter or homemade tuna salad or homemade pimento cheese, with my doctor's blessings. Nothing bad happened to me, and I didn't worry that it would, since I was permitted to eat what I could tolerate.

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I agree with Ms skinniness, it is your home you need to take charge and control over your life. Tell your family that no foods such as Cookies are aloud in your house, plain and simple. This is the time you need to start doing for yourself, the surgery was the first step. Stay away from the cookies. No one said you had to sit with them while they ate a big dinner; only you. Go into another room, come search on VST, watch TV, if they don't understand than they really are not supportive or loving of you; now are they?

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I understand and know EXACTLY how you feel. I was so desperate for something with some texture, I ate a piece of whole wheat toast (I am 3 weeks post-op today.) I am grieving for crap carbs. I regretted eating it immediately. I felt like crap for 15 hours.

The next morning I was fine, and I swore I would never do it again because of how icky I felt. Keep calm and carry on.

It's not the end of the world. You made a mistake. Learn from it. Make the changes you need to in your own household.

Good luck, and keep working on it.

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I think the doctors who tell you you can eat regularly aren't doing right by their patients even if they can eat. At 3 weeks out you should still be on liquids or moving on to puréed food. You should not be eating a cookie. My doctor scared me so bad I didn't eat real food for six weeks. The fear alone helped me get over my love of food. So at 3 weeks you are not healed! That cookie could get in your staple line and then cause a leak.

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Don't beat yourself up. Yes it was very soon and hopefully you won't have any problems. The holidays are tough everyone is either tempted or caves. I've had a few little slip ups and it just makes me made at myself. Today is a new day. Make sure you track too. Whenever I don't track I slip up way more then I would if I didn't track.

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Leaks are a big fear of mine so I read a lot of threads concerning them.

I am not in any way advocating eatting wrong but many do and post of their slip ups and progress without issue. Also we are all aware of how much doctors orders vary. Some doctors have no restrictions following surgery and others have weeks of liquids only prior to and following many weeks after.

I am suspecting leaks are more often caused my faulty staple lines or skin deteriorating around staple line than by wrong foods busting them open. That said I guess we should do all we can to be sure we don't bust a staple but I fear in the end it is all just bad luck, doctor misstaple, or bad tummy tissue that is goning to get us.

One cookie will not defeat you it is the pattern of behaviour that will determine your future.

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I am also a type 2 diabetic my surgery is scheduled for 1/8 I was hoping to not need any meds after surgery. Do u still need insulin or any meds after your surgery? Please don't let the slip up keep you from reaching your goal. You can do this!!!!

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