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Holy Cow surgery monday! So much anxiety & fear

Talk about breaking my heart. My son (5) and I were talking and I said I was scared about my surgery Monday and he goes "you can always see me from heaven and I can remember you in my mind" shocked I have him able to understand, then floored told him don't kill me off so quick.

So of course I end up bawling. I'm just scared. Nothing about the actually surgery scares me, I have a high pain tolerance, not worried about stitches, just dying and not being there for my son.

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So apparently doc told My fiancé that my sutures came undone on my band, it was in wrong place and dilated my lower esophagus, no wonder even though I was in pain early today I still felt better!

So sleeved at 7:30, immense pain and nausea when I woke around 12, they got my balanced out with pain meds and nausea, got my own room at 1. Once pain pump was hooked up I'd say by 4 my on a scale 1-10 pain dropped from like 30 to a 3 lol, did great on my walk at 8, came back to my room where my pain pump quit working for an hour yet wasn't hurting just uncomfortable, not experiencing much pain or gas pain.

Nurse just took vitals, my blood pressure dropped low and pulse fast so they've increased my fluids. Which explains why my skin is so dry and itchy, I'm dehydrated. So hoping the increased IV bag speed helps me quickly.

Anesthesiologists appointment tomorrow surgery on December18th on liquid diet until then, having mixed emotions right now, I'm more then happy about the surgery b/c this journey has been long awaited but the reality is... I'm fearful of not seeing my children again :'( my prayers are simple tonight; Father God protect me as I go through this journey help me to indure a little if any pain, let this surgery be a success help me to fully and quickly recover and pls..... God deliver me safely back home to my babies and my love ones.This prayer I pray for everyone who's surgery day is approaching.Amen.

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Anesthesiologists appointment tomorrow surgery on December18th on liquid diet until then' date=' having mixed emotions right now, I'm more then happy about the surgery b/c this journey has been long awaited but the reality is... I'm fearful of not seeing my children again :'( my prayers are simple tonight; Father God protect me as I go through this journey help me to indure a little if any pain, let this surgery be a success help me to fully and quickly recover and pls..... God deliver me safely back home to my babies and my love ones.This prayer I pray for everyone who's surgery day is approaching.Amen.[/quote']

I feel you sweetheart. I was a mess for weeks leading to surgery and even now (being sleeved for almost 20hrs) and waiting to see how things are healing. I'm still nervous, specially since I already called my son yesterday to tell him I'm ok , and they are concerned about my low BP and Heart rate .

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So here are all my little happy incisions. Only ones on my right side really hurt. Word of advise, bring Chap Stick! I'm still not allowed to drink Water or suck ice. Have to use

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To moisten my tongue, mouth, lips you name it.

Im glad you are doing so good and you are so right the gas pain is the worse so far its horrible! ! I've been walking a lot since yesterday and it really helps...I didn't use my pain med pump at all....just remember to walk everyone..

So apparently doc told My fiancé that my sutures came undone on my band, it was in wrong place and dilated my lower esophagus, no wonder even though I was in pain early today I still felt better!

So sleeved at 7:30, immense pain and nausea when I woke around 12, they got my balanced out with pain meds and nausea, got my own room at 1. Once pain pump was hooked up I'd say by 4 my on a scale 1-10 pain dropped from like 30 to a 3 lol, did great on my walk at 8, came back to my room where my pain pump quit working for an hour yet wasn't hurting just uncomfortable, not experiencing much pain or gas pain.

Nurse just took vitals, my blood pressure dropped low and pulse fast so they've increased my fluids. Which explains why my skin is so dry and itchy, I'm dehydrated. So hoping the increased IV bag speed helps me quickly.

Have you had your leak test yet, if they are doing it. Some doctors don't do one before leaving the hospital.

asherje - We were sleeved the same day and I think we're in the same general area based on the doctor who did your band. We should get together when we're not feeling so lousy!

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Leak test was this morning. I bawled because I was so nausea.

Trying to drink dinner not digging it, in lots of pain from the built up gases. They don't give a gas ex, they want to to just walk around to work it out.

Good news is am finally able to pee lol

I was approved today for Jan 9th and am scared and nervous but excited too. Thanks for all your advise it keeps me same!

@ asherje Thanks for the picture

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thanks for the update and pictures, thanks also for the humor much laughter and extra smiles are needed right thanks'

My mom had the surgery 3 years ago and we explained to the kids what grandma was doing and why. I took the kids to see her the day she got home and they walked in, hugged her, and looked at me and said " she's not skinny?" Lol so then I had to explain it takes time! They are now 8, 9, and 12...I had my surgery 12/4/12 and didn't bother saying anything because I would tell them I was not gonna be fat for much longer 5'5 244lbs and they told me mom you aren't fat...lol! All my friends and their moms friends are 100 pounds lighter than me...lol kids can be do sweet!

I am so happy that you brought up this fear! My daughter is 11 and lost her father less than two years ago. She is terrified about me dying during surgery. Even though this will improve overall quality of life, I fear that it may be a selfish decision on my part. Ugh! I don't have a date yet, but am in the final stages and should have a date by next week for January. Though I am confident in my decision, I fear the unknown for the sake of my angel!

Anesthesiologists appointment tomorrow surgery on December18th on liquid diet until then' date=' having mixed emotions right now, I'm more then happy about the surgery b/c this journey has been long awaited but the reality is... I'm fearful of not seeing my children again :'( my prayers are simple tonight; Father God protect me as I go through this journey help me to indure a little if any pain, let this surgery be a success help me to fully and quickly recover and pls..... God deliver me safely back home to my babies and my love ones.This prayer I pray for everyone who's surgery day is approaching.Amen.[/quote']

Amen... My dr told me to start my liquid diet two days before surgery..... So what liquids are you using?

I feel you sweetheart. I was a mess for weeks leading to surgery and even now (being sleeved for almost 20hrs) and waiting to see how things are healing. I'm still nervous' date=' specially since I already called my son yesterday to tell him I'm ok , and they are concerned about my low BP and Heart rate .

So here are all my little happy incisions. Only ones on my right side really hurt. Word of advise, bring Chap Stick! I'm still not allowed to drink Water or suck ice. Have to use

To moisten my tongue, mouth, lips you name it.[/quote']

Girl thanks for the picture update, how do you add pictures?

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I'm using the app on my iPhone, top right corner is a. + sign, I click up to upload pictures.

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