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Weight And Sex Drive?

thehappycat

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thehappycat    91

thehappycat
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Ave any of you post-op sleevers noticed a change in your sex drive after losing the weight?

My sex drive has been at zero since I got heavy and it's really taking a toll on my relationship with my fiancé. I'm really hoping that dropping some serious weight will bring back my sex drive.

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CrazyCatLady    130

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Oh dear goodness, yes!

My libido is on steroids since after the first 40lbs I lost....I'm sure it doesn't help that my husband and I are still waiting for immigration to process, so he had to go back home to Canada after my surgery....I feel like I almost need some salt peter >.< It's distracting.

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Shayyt    26

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The more you lose the more you want it and the better it gets. I think the weight loss brings out the inner goddess/beast...LOL

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alliemm    24

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I am so glad you asked this! I swear my husband is supporting the surgery in hopes that our sex life increases. When I asked him today what he was thinking about after we left my preop appt, he says "how soon after you come home can we try? It's not like when we had the baby was it?!". I died laughing. So I hope it does because I will have a very devastated hubby moping around all the time other wise.

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amykins    202

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Good to know. I do okay dating, but sometimes just having him see me naked makes me so uncomfortable I find a reason to end the relationship before it ever gets that far.

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ButterflyAMT06    9

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I hope so I'm waiting for approval but only being able to have sex in two positions with hubby gets boring...can't wait to ride the bronco like i use to when i was in my 20's..and other stuff lol :wub:

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CNTWT2BMINIME    78

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That's awesome! :D

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hadouni    301

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oh the hormones were crazy in the first 4-5 months after surgery and it really was a bummer to be single through that! =) it's become a little more manageable and only truly irritating half my monthly cycle. I get at least two weeks out of every four that I don't feel like a teen-age boy!

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thehappycat    91

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That sounds good. I know my fiancé will be excited to hear that.

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Des0520    28

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I can tell you that at 20 mths out the drive is going high. Makes my husband a happy camper. He wants kids and was fine and happy until the dr said sex every 48 hours lol. I haven't seen him bummed like that since he was told we had to wait until I got my drain out for the sleeve. But it does feel so much better and it's fun to try new things. I hope you have some fun :D

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