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[CraftyV 61]

I agree with the other responses' date=' I think that it can be interpreted in different ways. I personally would suggest that you observe the situation a bit more. If she did it again, I would contact her directly and say hey I appreiciate your concern for my well being but you can contact me directly rather than my hubby. This will elminate any confusion and basically let her know that your hubby does communicate with you and you are very aware of her so called "concern".[/quote']

I like this idea!

[CraftyV 61]

Thanks everyone for your help! I feel better :-)

[Mom_24 72]

I split up with my husband over online "friendships" that became too friendly. I don't think you can ever be too cautious with regard to this kind of thing. I trusted my husband and never dreamed I should be checking up on him, and by the time I did, it was too late. I think you are wise to confront her on it, so that she can know your marriage is intact and will hopefully stop trying to pull anything (assuming those are her motives). If it is innocent, she will totally understand, since she is a good friend.

[CraftyV 61]

I split up with my husband over online "friendships" that became too friendly. I don't think you can ever be too cautious with regard to this kind of thing. I trusted my husband and never dreamed I should be checking up on him' date=' and by the time I did, it was too late. I think you are wise to confront her on it, so that she can know your marriage is intact and will hopefully stop trying to pull anything (assuming those are her motives). If it is innocent, she will totally understand, since she is a good friend.[/quote']

I agree. Its best if I confront her. Hopefully she doesn't get offended. Maybe I'll make a joke of it... I just hate doing these type of things they make me uncomfortable. I will have to put on my big girl panties and give her a call. Thanks!

[chitowngirl 885]

I would definitely bring it up to her, also let her know that your husband is not very comfortable with it either. Considering she has never met him, I find it kind of weird that she would reach out to him like that. If it were me I'd be bothered. I'm sorry, but there are just some scandalous women out there. The only time I ever contacted my husbands friends directly was when I was planning a suprise party for him, and I needed their help to get him out of the house, at that I let the wives know that I would be contacting the guys. I couldn't imagine crossing that boundary, so just ask yourself if you would feel appropriate reaching out to her husband in a similar manner.

[Oregondaisy 2,020]

If she is your friend, and not really his, I don't see why you can't just say "Hey, Joe is uncomfortable with you contacting him on fb. After all, he doesn't really know you, the way I do. Or he's not friends with you , the way we are. Good grief! She should just understand!

[CraftyV 61]

I would definitely bring it up to her' date=' also let her know that your husband is not very comfortable with it either. Considering she has never met him, I find it kind of weird that she would reach out to him like that. If it were me I'd be bothered. I'm sorry, but there are just some scandalous women out there. The only time I ever contacted my husbands friends directly was when I was planning a suprise party for him, and I needed their help to get him out of the house, at that I let the wives know that I would be contacting the guys. I couldn't imagine crossing that boundary, so just ask yourself if you would feel appropriate reaching out to her husband in a similar manner.[/quote']

I mentioned it to her and she laughed and said ”your man is whipped!” Lol... I guess??

[CraftyV 61]

If she is your friend' date=' and not really his, I don't see why you can't just say "Hey, Joe is uncomfortable with you contacting him on fb. After all, he doesn't really know you, the way I do. Or he's not friends with you , the way we are. Good grief! She should just understand![/quote']

I've talked to her about it and I think she understood!

[Oregondaisy 2,020]

Yay!

[Mimismom 49]

It's probably innocent. Maybe she felt she would get more of a response from him since you just had surgery. However one thing I don't do is brag about the man I'm with to my friends. I don't talk about how great he is in bed or how great he is to me in general because girlfriends can be jealous and catty and jinx what you have even if they don't do anything.

[MamaM 72]

I mentioned it to her and she laughed and said ”your man is whipped!” Lol... I guess??

Oh Hell No!!!! She did NOT just call your man whipped?!

She's fishing in waters that she shouldn't be! Hubby needs to unfriend her. I don't care what her feelings are about it. Then he needs to make sure his settings are such that she can't PM him anymore. He didn't want to "friend" her in the 1st place. He should feel free to UF her!

If she says anything, just tell her it was his decision, as it's his wall.

I think it would be a little different if she hadn't talked to you in awhile and posted ON HIS WALL asking about you but to PM him and more than once, is suspect. Especially when she speaks with you on a regular basis.

I don't trust her!

[CraftyV 61]

It's probably innocent. Maybe she felt she would get more of a response from him since you just had surgery. However one thing I don't do is brag about the man I'm with to my friends. I don't talk about how great he is in bed or how great he is to me in general because girlfriends can be jealous and catty and jinx what you have even if they don't do anything.

I totally agree about the bragging, I think this iswhy she contacted my hubby. I don't talk about him anymore but because she talks so bad about her husband. She has an awful relationship that she stays in due to personal reasons. I feel bad for her. I just wish happiness for her and her family. I guess this is why I don't want to hurt her feelings.

[CraftyV 61]

Oh Hell No!!!! She did NOT just call your man whipped?!

She's fishing in waters that she shouldn't be! Hubby needs to unfriend her. I don't care what her feelings are about it. Then he needs to make sure his settings are such that she can't PM him anymore. He didn't want to "friend" her in the 1st place. He should feel free to UF her!

If she says anything' date=' just tell her it was his decision, as it's his wall.

I think it would be a little different if she hadn't talked to you in awhile and posted ON HIS WALL asking about you but to PM him and more than once, is suspect. Especially when she speaks with you on a regular basis.

I don't trust her![/quote']

lol! Your sounds like that little voice in my head that keeps me cautious! Love it! :-)