Now that I have gone down 8 sizes, I am trying to wear clothes that actually fit. (new one for me) When I was a size 28/30 I would always buy the biggest size they had. The baggier the better (really, who was I kidding?)

When I wear the correct size is when I get people coming up to me and saying, wow you look great or have you lost weight, you look wonderful. This is SOOOO uncomfortable. I have spent the last 15 years trying to fade into the background. Trying to NOT get noticed. Now when people say anything to me I awkwardly change the subject or mumble a "thanks" and put my head down. How do I get over this? I am probably just at the beginning of these compliments. Honestly, as proud as I am that I am a size 20 I am under no illusion that I am "small".

What did you say, or are planning or hoping to say, when people compliment you? I don't like it when I give people a compliment and get "oh, I have so much to go" or "no, I really don't" as a reply. I don't want to be that person.

Even almost a year out (in 4 mos) and being waay smaller and it being very noticable- this has been 1 of the hardest post op hurdles for me... I have talked to friends and even my pre- op therapist who says it is just going to take time.... but I agree it is hard to take a compliment when you hever or rarely had positive feedback EVER...