So, being reasonably young and in the dating world....I have had my fair share of interesting experiences and discussions amongst friends around the dinner/cocktail table. A very thought provoking question/statement was thrown out by a friend that is a bit older and has the non-adjustable band that they did about 17 years ago. *She was in the pioneering experimental group that had one of the first bandings in the US* The comment was.....

When transforming through your losing process, you will start to notice people 'noticing' you....and not in a 'just a pretty face' sort of way. They notice you sexually and as a potential conquest. They may start to flirt, exude charm, do things to capture your attention, they may even ask you out....How will you react when people that knew you before your weight loss *as friends* all of the sudden become romantically interested towards you since you have lost your weight? Will you be flattered? Will you be offended? Will you broach the subject of - are you asking me out only because I am of 'normal' size now?

How would you handle this scenario? Have you encountered this situation, thus far?

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I hope I dont get too pissy about it cuz it seems perfectly natural to me to be more attracted..

I think there's a facet of this that has been overlooked! I don't think the guys are all shallow and just attracted because of size; I think that as we lose weight we become so much more confident.......we carry ourselves differently and tend to make eye contact and maybe even smile more!! Perhaps THIS is what attracts the attention from some guys!! Thank goodness I don't have to worry about.....I'm lucky to have a hubby who loves me no matter what (I think!)!! Hang in there!!

I didn't have to go through this, but I would think that I would feel flattered, but I would never date one of them. If I wasn't good enough for them before, then they can eat dirt now. My husband accepted me for the person I was, not for what I looked like. Now he is very supportive of my decision, but doesn't think it was necessary as far as what I looked like. He does understand however, that my health and my grandchildren were and are my primary decision maker. Oh, and I forgot to mention, my husband knew me for many years and we dated when I was younger and smaller. He didn't care how much I changed over the years. He loved me for me. That's what you want.