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Hey guys. I met a lady through a support site who gained back half of the weight she lost. Lost 100-gained back 50 now. She said she was too ashamed to go places or do things because people will "know she failed at weight loss surgery". I feel so awful for her. She admitted to eating the wrong things. I feel awful for her. It's a painful reminder that this surgery can be outsmarted, just like those who have gained back weight after gastric bypass or other surgeries. The sleeve is not foolproof. Eating chips, sliders, and carby foods too often and too much can really sabotage everything. It really is important to eat Protein first. I firmly believe a treat now and then it perfectly fine but man, I see clearly how things can get out of control if you let yourself. She mentioned that she had a hard time coping with a new "thinner" version of herself and kind of sabotaged it without even realizing it. Be careful, folks.

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I can't express this enough... thank you for sharing this experience. It can and will happen if we allow it to.

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WOW really hits home! so is she back on track to lose the weight? if she straightened up her diet the weight would come off again right?

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Hey guys. I met a lady through a support site who gained back half of the weight she lost. Lost 100-gained back 50 now. She said she was too ashamed to go places or do things because people will "know she failed at weight loss surgery". I feel so awful for her. She admitted to eating the wrong things. I feel awful for her. It's a painful reminder that this surgery can be outsmarted, just like those who have gained back weight after gastric bypass or other surgeries. The sleeve is not foolproof. Eating chips, sliders, and carby foods too often and too much can really sabotage everything. It really is important to eat Protein first. I firmly believe a treat now and then it perfectly fine but man, I see clearly how things can get out of control if you let yourself. She mentioned that she had a hard time coping with a new "thinner" version of herself and kind of sabotaged it without even realizing it. Be careful, folks.

That is true,weight loss surgery is NOT magic,this requires a Lifestyle change for life if you want to be successful :)

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wow..thanks for sharing. I needed to hear this..I will be sleeved soon and I was told the same thing by my surgeon. I have heard people say you can stretch out the sleeve as well...

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Wow that is an eye opener. Thank u for sharing that.

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It's just a tool, just a real one and not the yo-yo tools. It scares me too, it will be a daily journey, I think.

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The sleeve will expand to a point over the years, but not that much. I can see how one could eat around the sleeve by pushing high calorie sliders foods through.

I'm trying to make good habits now. I think I have changed my way of eating, but the thought of gaining it all back is chilling!

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Not to be too Polly-Anna, but she only gained back half. (she is still 1/2 way there!) How many times have we lost, gained, and added more???

She has the tool. It is up to her (and each of us) to use it.

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Scary knowing we can gain it back. The challenge is on us and how we think about food. Lean Proteins first then veggies starchs. We can do this and we will support each other. ;)

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so with the sleeve how do you manage to make that change. I have not gotten my sleeve yet but I am in the process and I am still not sure what I should do now to help get myself ready for the sleeve and how do I start changing my life now. Any advise would help. Thanks

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It's very easy to intellectualize all of this - we *know* what we should be doing, but actually doing it is another story. I think that honest communication with fellow sleevers and a therapist are crucial. Attend support group meetings. There are some great books about overeating and specifically emotional eating.

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This is a big one for me this week as I've been having a tough time emotionally and mentally with some things going on, and my "head hunger" has come back to the forefront of my thinking. When I'm sad, I want comfort foods. Thankfully I have not broken down at all and have stuck with the program and my weight loss is still progressing. But even today, after a tough session with my therapist, I really wanted to hit the Jack in the Box. Granted, I justified it by saying I'll just get chicken strips and eat two of them. I was halfway there when I stopped at a light and made a hard u-turn saying out loud, "Just go home! GO HOME NOW!" and I did. I came home and made a Protein shake instead. I was hungry (hadn't had enough Protein today) and emotional -- two weaknesses. It just goes to show how there is more to this surgery than just the incisions, gas, and pills. It's about knowing what you got in trouble in the first place and taking control.

I personally know that having the sleeve has been the best and most consistent tool I've had in weight loss ever. Before, I'd diet, I'd exercise, I'd get into a program and inevitably I'd lose momentum after 2-3 months. Having PAID for the surgery (a small chunk of savings that could have gone to SO many other things), gone through the cutting, the healing and that horrible first month -- I NEVER want to do it again. That does not mean I regret ever doing it -- just the opposite -- now that I have done it, I have so much motivation to never have to do it again! Not to mention seeing the results for the first time in six years! Yes, my weight yo-yo'd some in my twenties, but I've never had to lose this much weight before. To know I've been able to lose 50 pounds in three months, is just amazing.

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Not to be too Polly-Anna, but she only gained back half. (she is still 1/2 way there!) How many times have we lost, gained, and added more???

She has the tool. It is up to her (and each of us) to use it.

50 lbs is an awful lot of weight - even though it might not seem like that to someone who lost 100+ or 200+. She'd be back to being obese at that point. I could never get down to a reasonable weight when I was 50 lbs above my current weight, either. So tbh, I think you are kind of screwed if you get to that point.

I don't let my weight go up more than 2 lbs. The second the scale hits 144, it's no more Desserts, booze, and healthier choices when eating out. The more weight you put on, the harder it is to take it off.

It's totally possible

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so with the sleeve how do you manage to make that change. I have not gotten my sleeve yet but I am in the process and I am still not sure what I should do now to help get myself ready for the sleeve and how do I start changing my life now. Any advise would help. Thanks

You can totally regain weight with the sleeve, although the pace would be slower than if you had a normal stomach.

Exercise regularly, plan meals, always have healthy Snacks available. And generally, have some sort of game plan that you can adhere to - for example, you will only eat out 3x a week OR you will not have dessert more than 2x a week, etc.

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