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she liked me alot so when she asked me about my previous relationships i decided to tell her the truth ......... i told her i had no previous relationships and that just killed everything ,the mood ,the rapport and the attraction , what gives .... did she though i was lying ? is it so horrible to be 23 and still no girlfriends ? ... ps ( i didn't told her i was overweight and i have no plan to tell any potential partner that i was overweight it just a chapter of my life that i want to forget) ....

Okay..i'm almost 33 and have never had a BF and when i was talking with someone it went weird too after I told him..lol.. I dont think its horrible - i just think as you are working thru your weight loss you're gonna have to work thru dating until you find someone who is okay or understands there is not always something wrong with a person who has not been in a relationship. I see it like its not me that has the problem..its them! Sorry if i havent dated every man i've met..oh well!! LOL Keep telling the truth! Meet people, make friends, date, hang out, enjoy the life you are creating for yourself!

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Hi all. Yes, I'm an "about to be sleeved" singleton. :blink: My surgery is 10/15 ... would love some support as well! I think my last straw was the LAST loser...that's when the sh*t really hit the fan with my weight...

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Hey all! Sleeved 9/14 & also single...went thru a bad divorce that finally ended in April of 2011...then, my ex hubs passed away 8 months later from heart disease. He was 42. One of

The reasons I decided to go with the sleeve...life isn't garanteed-I hope in doing this, I'll have a long life with my daughter. And perhaps a love interest in the future :)

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Single in Colorado here. Although I would say that's by choice, not because of my rapidly fading fatness. I actually like women with some curves.

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18 days post op....just got out of a 10 yrs long relationship....my friends think my sleeve is a reaction to d break up.... Maybe its partially a trigger but i was thinkn about it since quiet some tym... Weirdly my ex wasnt very keen on d idea....

New sleeve ...new lease on life...!!

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Hi all! I'm 23, I'll be sleeved in a few weeks. I'm single. I've dated a little bit as a big girl. I was with someone for a while and it ended over a year and a half ago and the break up has been really rough for me. To tell you the truth I think a part of me has settled and feels like maybe I won't be able to find anyone else which is why it's been so hard for me to move on. It's really touch to admit that, but it's importan to realize. I've always gravitated towards guys who preferred bigger girls so I didn't have to face rejection dating in a 'skinny girl world' my ex did- so it's going to be a real shocker to me to date in the normal dating world lol. Looking forward to getting out there truthfully!

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Hi all! I'm 24 from Tennessee. I'm single and have been for over two years. I was sleeved on August 29th 2012. I guess it is my choice to be single, I don't activly seek anyone or try dating. I was married at 17 in 2005 and my husband passed away in 2010. I think that part of me shut down. Sure I get lonely and part of me would love that comfort again but the main part of me really just accepted that it won't happen again.

For one I come with "baggage" so to say and really don't feel anyone would be accepting. Two; I'm super shy and conservative lol. I've been with one guy EVER and don't plan on rushing into bed with another...and just from what I've seen in my area that's what dating is about! I dated my late husband a year before being intimate and we married just five months later.

Sorry to ramble! Guess I'm in need of this single support you all talk about then I just may one day try again!

Heaviest: 305<br />Current: 269<br />VSG Surgery Date: 8/29/12

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Hey all. My name is Ray. Single and 3.5 weeks post op in NYC.

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I'm in Houston, Texas....4 almost 5 months post op....I finally feel like dating again after a 3 year hiatis from it....mainly because of school, and I'm still in grad school for another 1.5 years, so I'll have to find someone who is understanding of the fact that I dream that I am working to make into a reality...

And to answer everyone's question, yes I had surgery while in school....didnt take not one day off....I churned right on through....reading my books on my kindle while hooked to a pain pump, my doc wanted me to relax, and I told him "I'm on a mission, cant relax now" he just said either I relax or my body will make it.....and he was right, my body made me...but I still got my work done....lol

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I'm in Houston' date=' Texas....4 almost 5 months post op....I finally feel like dating again after a 3 year hiatis from it....mainly because of school, and I'm still in grad school for another 1.5 years, so I'll have to find someone who is understanding of the fact that I dream that I am working to make into a reality...

And to answer everyone's question, yes I had surgery while in school....didnt take not one day off....I churned right on through....reading my books on my kindle while hooked to a pain pump, my doc wanted me to relax, and I told him "I'm on a mission, cant relax now" he just said either I relax or my body will make it.....and he was right, my body made me...but I still got my work done....lol[/quote']

Not to discourage you, but I started dating my current boyfriend when I was halfway into my grad NP program, and it was really hard. I was divorced for two years before we started dating, and I had forgotten how much work goes into a new relationship. I worked full-time, went to school part-time, had clinicals to complete, tests to study for, a thesis to prepare, and I'm a single parent, so it was hard as hell making time for him. I would feel so guilty, but there was nothing I could do about it. If you meet a keeper who will understand the situation, then go for it, but if you can wait, it'll make your life so much easier. Good Luck!

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you are right, life is much easier being single and in school...honestly for the next 2 years I'm more interested in finishing then dating...but if I'm asked out, I will not turn it down :) but if I'm not asked out, I'm ok with that too....

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I've been sleeved for over 3 years, and I've been living with my bf for over a year and a half.

Your lives will all change dramatically. It's nice to see so many people getting sleeved young in life. I know I never would have met my bf if I were still fat. It's the best thing I could have ever done for myself!

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I'm seeing someone now, but taking it easy. My former husband (deceased) and previous boyfriend were both very controlling. I decided that I would no longer allow someone else to make decisions for me or direct my choices. I did not inform my current boyfriend of 6 months what I was doing when I had surgery and I don't regret it. Everyone has such a highly individual case and experience. At this point in life I have no intention of ever marrying again. I just love life and am excited about personal goals I have set for myself.

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