Not really a question or an answer, but just needed to vent!

Passive-aggresive people make me mad. You know the types. They casually or nonchalantly throw mean words about you by saying it to someone else knowing you can hear them. Anyways, here's the story.

My dad decided he wanted to take me to dinner before I had to go to work. I order an appetizer while my dad orders an entree. Waiter is pretty nice, if maybe a bit pushy about how little I'm eating. Even though I have lost about 45 pounds since surgery, I'm still obese and considered "big" so seeing someone like me eat only a few bites is probably weird.

Anyways, some of the tables are set up against a low wall to where you're basically right next to the table on the other side and are able to see and hear them through the big opening. Well, this couple is sitting right next to us with the woman diagonal from me, sitting right next to my dad. They order an appetizer and begin eating it. After a few minutes, mine and my dad's food come out. The woman looks right at my food and pushes the appetizer towards her husband saying she's getting full or something. A few minutes pass and she's still looking at me and then her food comes out. Before I'm even two bites into my meal, she loudly proclaims that her own meal is "sooo much food" and she "doesn't know how she'll be able to eat it all." I pretty much ignore her the rest of the time until we're almost done. I ate probably 1/4 of what was given to me, gave some to my dad and there's still about half of the appetizer left. All this time, the woman is watching me eat! I felt the full feeling and probably ate too fast because I was trying to hurry for work. I tell my dad that I think I ate too much, all the while this lady is watching me and making little comments about my eating. Waiter comes out and asks if I'm eating slow to save room for dessert. I just tell him that I'm full and would like a box. Cue eye-roll from the woman. She looks at her meal, notices that she ate more than me, and then pushes her plate to the side. Apparently, it bothered her that someone my size could possibly eat less than her. I guess I offended her.

I know I'm probably looking too deep into it, or overreacting, but frankly I don't care. Even as heavy as I was, I've never had (or maybe never noticed) someone having such a negative reaction to my eating. I guess because I was so heavy, they just expected me to eat as much I used to. Still being pretty fat and eating so little must just confuse them so.

Sorry for the long post. I've never been good at summarizing. Just needed to vent!

I'm one of those people that would totally have showed her a mouth full of chewed up food. If she's that interested in what I'm eating, I wanna give her the full show! Yes - I truly am that person haha.

It does suck - but other people's issues are theirs and theirs alone. Don't accept her trying to convey her problems to you.

Oh me too. Or i would have asked her if she was enjoying her meal. I used to get sooooo bugged when I was nursing my older two kids in public, I would actually let it stop me from doing it in public. Same with taking insulin shots or taking my blood sugar. people would stare. As I got older, i decided i did NOT need to let other people take my enjoyment away from me, or to let it bother me. It was really really hard to push through feeling uncomfortable and felt easier to leave or run away, but gradually I got to my place of holding my ground, ignoring or staring down stupid people. LOL!

I eat out all the time and have not had any waiter issues. I've used the tricks learned here -- I still order a glass of Water and push it away, or if I'm with hubby, he drinks some of his first and then switches with me. For food I order a very small thing or I get a box to start with. Have had zero issues that way.

Sounds like she was completely insecure to me. She must have her own issues with food and put it on you. Maybe she was concerned about how much she is eating anyway and when she saw you eating less, it confirmed whatever misguided thoughts she had.

Really sounds like it was her issue. Although it sucks that you had to bare the brunt of it.