When I decided I wanted the vsg my hubby, who I love dearly, said "oh good now I will lose weight too". My jaw dropped. I wasn't even sure I heard what I thought I heard. So tryin not to be offended, I calmly asked him if my over eating is the reason he is overweight. (He's like 60# overweight) he said he eats when I eat so yeah it was the cause. After I had the sleeve he noticed how much more in volume he eats than I do and claimed he was having a food funeral cuz now he will start eating less. Tomorrow I will be 2 months postop, down 37 pounds and he hasn't lost a pound or changed anything about his eating. I brought it up and asked if he still agreed with his earlier hypothesis. He said he still agreed with his earlier thoughts and when I get "thin" he will care more and change his eating. I said well I'm not fat. Then he quickly said " you're not thin either". I was hurt by this and his cracked hypothesis. Please share your thoughts. You are my friends and possibly can talk me out of feeling bad. I just dropped below 200 and really want to return to that bliss. I'm 5'6" and 198. Maybe not thin but I don't think your hubby should say things like that. At minimum send me a big hug. Big hugs to you all!

Ok I feel like women in general make so many excuses for men! Men always get a pass because they are thought to be ignorant of their own emotions.

I think what he said was meant to be hurtful. Especially the "well you aren't thin" comment. He is definitely starting to feel insecure. But that doesn't excuse his words, especially if they were hurtful to you. You aren't the problem with his weight and you never were.

I haven't said anything until yesterday when he brought it up again.

On your first post you said "I brought it up and asked if he still believes in his earlier hypothesis"

Either way, you are not responsible for his weight issues, but I do think it will all stop and he might lose weight if you don't mention it again or fall for his bait.

Your husband feel threatened by your weight loss and is totally scared of the shift in the status quo. You are taking care of yourself and looking better everyday. He is struggling with his weight and has difficulty taking responsibility for his over eating. Who wants to look in the mirror and own his/her responsibility. If I were you, I would share with you hubby how hurtful his comments were to you. Use I language like: When you said this, I felt___________. Please help me by being more supportive and I want to be more supportive too you. Happy New Year! Hope this helps. HUGS TO BOTH YOU AND YOUR HUBBY! You are a survivor as we all are.