I was wondering if there were any other women who are in their 30's with no children?

I'm 35, and maybe would like to have a child one day, but could not imagine being a mom in the shape I am in. Part of my decision to have lap band surgery is that if I am a mom someday I want to be an active one.

I'm also glad to have this choice, b/c the thought of being pregnant on top of what I already weigh freaks me out!

And then there are times when I'm not sure I want children, and that once I am fit again I'll want to enjoy life child-free.

Anyway, if anyone else is in the same boat, just holler!

Liz - never think you have to settle for one or the other. I'm happily married, starting my PhD next year, and well-established in a professional career. I will plug along until pregnancy comes (at least another year away), then work as much school in as I can. Work will always be there. I love what I do, and make more than DH, so if either of us stays home it'll be him. He loves what he does too, but could make more money doing it as a freelance contractor anyway. And I can work from home. :confused:

I'm going to be 29 in a month (I relate with older people better, probably because I feel like I'm in my 40's), and have a serious fear of commitment. After a year, I just freak out. I can't do it anymore. I've met someone the past 6 months that is almost the male version of me, and to deal with someone who has the exact same hangups as me is not good. I'm not crazy but I am eccentric, and a hard worker, and a hard player. I do want to have kids someday, and realize the band is something that you can have kids successfully someday. I worry (especially lately, as all of my friends are getting married in the next 18 months or so) that I've missed the boat. I want to go back for my masters degree, and secretly I hope I'll meet someone in the school atmosphere. I have a really hard time not finding creeps, and I'm not a bar chick, those never seem productive. Sigh!

I'm 36 and I have no kids (THANK GOD!!!). I feel that children really ruin relationships and lives. I thank my lucky stars every day that I have total freedom to live life on MY terms and do what I want to do every moment without being enslaved to a child. I've been married for nine years and I love every single solitary second of my gloriously child-free existance!!!

34 no kids :confused:

Wheetsin,

Most of the guys I meet are already married though! I can't find one that's not just a total loser that's not. :confused:

I have a 14 yr. old but lately he is so independent I feel like a 34 yr old with no kids.

Most of the guys I meet are already married though!

Well... umm... are they happily married? :confused:

You know, if I weren't already married, I have NO IDEA where I'd go to meet guys. No clue. DH and I kind of just ran into each other... and good thing, b/c I'm really bad at meeting people. I definitely can empathize.

I am 32 with no children. I was in a LTR and had 2 miscarriages cuz I have polycystic ovarian syndrome. Hard time ovulation and making the egg "stick" .. Now I am single and would love children someday. So banding will help me with that I am sure so I am blessed to have had the surgery.. In fact, just had it 2 days ago!

DonnaMarie

I'm 37 and single with no children.

I met my husband on yahoo personals. We got married 5 months later. Met in Mid July and got married Dec. 18, 2004. hahaha. YES we are crazy but it's been 2 years since we met and we haven't killed each other yet. I do agree though. It's very hard to meet people!

I am 31, single, no kids. Some days I want kids and some days I don't. Who knows how I will feel when I reach my weight loss goal. :confused:

I'm 36 and I have no kids (THANK GOD!!!). I feel that children really ruin relationships and lives. I thank my lucky stars every day that I have total freedom to live life on MY terms and do what I want to do every moment without being enslaved to a child. I've been married for nine years and I love every single solitary second of my gloriously child-free existance!!!

In my opinion, parenting is just like everything in life: some people are into it and some people aren’t. I’m 31, child-free and plan to stay that way. I’ve known since the age of seven that children are not part of my life plan.

For those of us who don’t want children, it can seem like children ruin relationships and lives, and it likely would – for us. But I think for people who DO have the desire or urge to be fruitful and multiply, children bring a special dimension to their lives that people like me will never relate to or understand. I’m an independent career girl. I do what I want, when I want. My sister is a stay at home mother of three. I would never want to live her life and she would never want to live mine.

I'm 33, single, no kids, and thought I was the only one! I'm not sure if I want to have kids or not, but I definitely want to get married (particularly if I can convince him to live next door -- just joking). I figure it'll be easier to untangle all that with some of the weight gone.

Anyway, good to meet you all and know there are others like me.

Take care,

I just turned 38 a few days ago and am childless by choice. Have been with my husband for 7-8 years (I forget) and married since last Fall. He's getting snipped next week :-)