Okay. This isnt for me. I guess I'm hoping the men speak up here too. My husband and I have both been overweight most of our time together. I've always had the sex drive. Unfortunately my hubby's has been getting fewer and farther in-between. Here I'm 3 months out, down 60 pounds and we've been together ONCE since surgery!!!! Once!! About 2 months ago. My hubby's weight is about 290. How much would that weight affect his libido?

Sorry for sticking my nose in here to what may be none of a males business, but maybe all of the exercising is geting in the way of normal estrogen production.

My wife is a fit person and has always been so even when I weight 470lbs she was 110lbs and 5'-4" tall. She had an episode while training to run several 5k's where she lost all libido....and was she ever frustrated!!!!! it just would not work.!!!!..She eventually went to her Gyno doctor who helped her pin point that all of the increased training she was doing had her production of testosterone and estrogen all messed up and this made her feel less like having sex. I am not advocating for you to stop exercising just saying you might want to bring it down a notch to see if anything changes.. SHe backed off for 2 weeks and bingo bango right back in the groove... Hope this helps...

Testerone is not just for the boys you know ladies! I've been on a cream for several years now and love it so much I brought my gyno flowers. She laughed and said she'd gotten them for delivering babies before, but never for helping someone have better sex again. It has to be made at a pharmacy that can compound their own drugs - your doc can usually tell you where to take your prescription. It's been a life saver for me. I had a hysterectomy at age 41 and went many years of not caring if I ever had sex again. Now that I'm on the cream, I MAKE the hubby save a date night for me each week no matter what. And then there's always Humpday midweek you know.....