I am overweight. I have been overweight almost my entire life. I am so sick and tired of being called names and being told what I "need" to do. :angry:NEWSFLASH***** I know I am fat. I have mirrors in my home and I look in them every single day. I dont need you telling me something I already know. WELL today my aunt came over to my moms house. First thing she says "hey big mama". Pissed me off but I moved on from it and simply said hi. I started going to the gym about 3 weeks ago and changed some of my eating habits prior to that and have lost 19 lbs. My response from her " you have more to get off, keep on working on it". Pissed again! Just simply say good job on your weight loss or something encouraging. Its like every time she sees me she has to say something to say about my weight. "You are getting broad across your back, loose some weight" or "you are jiggly" always something. Those of you who think talking to her and telling her how i feel will help, it doesn't. The best part is...DRUMROLL!!!! She is fat herself.

She pisses me off sometimes and it does not stop. I snapped on someone the other week and my hubby said I need to be like that all the time. LOL! if only it worked. Just needed to vent! Thanks everyone

People like your Aunt have to criticize others to make themselves feel better. Here's the worst part, when you lose all your weight and you are looking FAN-TASTIC, guess what? She is STILL going to find something to criticize, maybe you're having a bad hair day. Maybe your shirt has a few wrinkles, SOMETHING. You should make up your mind now that whatever she says in the future, is just her feeling bad about herself and reflecting it onto you, and don't take it personally. You will do great! I wish you luck

You are so right. For now it is either my weight, my hair, what color I choose for my hair, if I cook or not...etc. the list goes on. Thank you...I ready for my sleeve.

I'm never fast on my feet but it's too bad you wouldn't have said "you know, I've lost 19 pounds. I'm surprised you didn't notice since you seem to be the on who found it".

Maybe save that for later when you're really dropping like a rock.

LOL! That is so funny.

Sleeveme2011,

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Right there with ya sister.

Next time you're aunt decides to make an abrasive comment, there's no reason for you to stoop to her level and be mean right back, I simply don't agree with that, but I would highly recommend that you show her this passage in the Bible....

“Do not judge so that you will not be judged” Matthew 7:1

This verse is not a warning against judging an action. It is a warning against self deception and hypocrisy.

Try that and then lets see how abrasive she is.....

Keep the faith!!! You're SOOOOO worth it!!!!!

Christal

Thank you so much! Oh wow! I am sorry you went thru what you did growing up. I was never really small every so I have been the fat kid for a long timmmmmme. LOL! But the comments and what not get old. I have a brother that I hadnt seen in ages, saw him the other day and this idiot says "I see you arent pushing away from the table" I ignored him. Heck, my bro-n-law called me lazy today because I wasnt helping my hubby mow the yard.

I like the passage out of the bible. I pray a lot and I try to hold my tongue when dealing with people. I have a short temper and attitude and can say some things that might make your jaw drop. LOL! I am trying to work on that, but God knows it is hard.

you took the words right out of my mouth. Well done!!!