OK, just want to poll people. Who do you tell about your surgery? Everyone, family, friends, only close confidants?

I'm of two minds here. Clearly, it's nobody's business, so I don't need to tell anyone, but I feel like this might be a good opportunity to spread the word about this surgery.

I ended up telling several of my adult students. They asked me how I managed to lose the weight. The women were overweight or obese, some morbidly so. One particularly heavy woman asked, "What is your secret?" I couldn't lie to her, couldn't make her think that if she just had more willpower, she could lose weight and keep it off. So I told them, though it made me feel sort of vulnerable. Most of my co-workers don't know so it's weird to have my students know but not my colleagues. I guess for now, I will decide case by case who I should tell.

I told my family, in-laws and close friends. I feel guilty when not so close friends go on and on about how wonderful I look and I'm telling them that I'm doing a high protein diet (which technically I am) and a migraine food elimination diet (which I currently am) - and three of them desperately want to lose weight....I do NOT want to sound at all like all you have to do is cut out chips, bread...blah, blah, blah.....I mean seriously!!!! I KNOW, I've been there time and time again over a life time. I feel like a fraud!!! I don't know why I don't just tell everyone!!!

Ive kind of hinted to some at work, and told others... told my mom and dad who supported the idea...they told my brother...who seems to aprove and is overweight...may even like the idea of doing it himself sometime. I told two out of three friends...funny, the last friend is a Dr. who is over weight... I kind of think she might argue a bit with me... but maybe not too... She might even go for it herself when she sees how it goes for me. Im sure I will tell her soon. I am in the public eye a little bit, so taking my time to see how it goes....I tend to think I will tell whoever asks, but we shall see. I have not had surgery yet...three months.

I told everyone. I even posted it on my Facebook. This was about me. I never wanted anyone to think how did you do it ask me for advise and me not tell them exactly how I did it. I tell anyone who wants to hear I did my 1200 calories, then 800, then had surgery. I told them I had to lose the first 30lbs before they would even do surgery. I don't mind if people talk or not this was never about anyone else. This has always been about me getting my health and body back to a place where I feel healthy and secure.

I told my parents, brother, a few relatives, and maybe 3 co-workers. People are so negative when it comes to weight loss surgery. They either comment on the complications, people re-gaining weight, or ask why don't I just try to diet and exercise. Most of these people have never had weight problems. People are more sympathetic to alcoholics, smokers, and drug abusers, all of which have some underlying psychologic issue.