All of a sudden, I'm a wimp?

[Globetrotter 1,340]

Pfftt, When I told my BF that I was having surgery, he moved right along to the next topic of conversation and when I was home recovering/on vacation for 3 weeks we talked once on skype. He and I are both deployed, he is a soldier, and he redeployed back to the states during that time. I can appreciate what a hectic time redeployment is, but to not even comment on "I'm having surgery" in a conversation ... needless to say, he is not my BF any longer. Sorry, didn't mean to hijack ...

Tiff, could it be that the underlying subconcious issue here is the fact that he wasn't there for you when you faced death? You both know he couldn't help not being there - in your rational brains. But in the emotional brain, maybe he is trying to compensate?

Edited August 19, 2010 by Globetrotter

[LovinLife 0]

Tiff,

My husband is still sitting while watching me lift 55 pounds of dog food! But my surgery was 8/17/10 so we will see if there are changes ahead. I can't even imagine him treating me as if I were fragile!

It sounds like there has been several changes in your lives and as long as you are communicating your thoughts and feelings you are on the right track. It may take a little while for the adjustments to feel just right.