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Upcoming surgery June 6th - anxious and scared about past failure.

This is where the anxiety starts. I had a major breakdown last night reading my lapband materials. I know this is the best thing for me. Weighing in at 281.5 lbs and 5'8" tall it is time. Did any of you have any phsycho issues about past failure and your lack of ability to exercise. I fear being in public at this weight. Kind of like walking on a course and not sure if I can make it fear. Advise appreciated.

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Its normal to be scared of the surgery and scared that you will fail, but you really need to try to keep positive thoughts right now. Surgery didn't make me change over night but it is helping me change slowly and I couldn't be happier.

Hang in there, your gonna be fine.

GOOD LUCK TOMORROW !!!!!

Oh yeah. My biggest fear was to be a failure at yet another attempt to lose weight. But this was was different since I was paying a HUGE amount of money have putting myself at risk by having surgery to do it! I felt like if I failed I had let down not just myself, but especially my kids. So far...success! I was banded on 2/22 and am down 41 pounds.

Well, I have to say with similar stats and height, I am very scared and wondering if this is the right answer.

But what scares me more is NOT doing this.

Hugs and keep us up on your progress.

Paula

Me too.

I am similar size 5ft7in 275lbs (125kg) My surgery date is 17th July and I am definitely scared that this surgery will not help and I will fail again.

I think after years and years of dieting...failure, dieting...failure, dieting....failure that I am in that whole "dieting = failure" mindset and it's hard to grasp the concept that I might actually be successful this time.

I'm trying to be positive be I also have the same fears.....so it must be totally normal.

Good Luck

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Thank you all for your kind words. I can't manage without this support. I know these thoughts are normal so again thank you.

Happy bandday tomorrow julie. It's gonna be fine. Whatever happens, you will get through it because you MUST. You can and will do it. It won't be like you think, but it's another life altogether after banding. Your whole perspective changes with the day to day banded living. You can do this! Just wait till the first 15-20 pounds is gone and watch how motivating that is. I'm excited for you! Get you some quiet time tonight. Rest well. And don't go too far from your 'puter. You'll need us! Congrats!

Best of luck tomorrow! The band has been the best thing for me as far as weight loss goes. And the more the weight comes off, the better I feel, more self confidence, etc. Let us know how you are doing!

juliegeraci ~ I just wanted to wish you well tomorrow!! YEAH....you getting your band. :clap2: Your surgery will be over before you know it. I hope you've done some research here on what to expect. Most of your pain will probably be in the port area. Every day does get better and it goes so fast. Give us an update when you get a chance b/c I'm anxious to hear from you!!!

I'm sending you warm & happy thoughts!! ;)

Well I didnt see this post until tonight, so by now your probably banded (whoohoo) and on your way to recuperation (even though it might not feel like it right at this moment). I just wanted to say that who here in our heart of hearts havent asked themselves.... will I fail? I think we all do, because we have in the past.... but this is a new beginning. You can do this, I can do this, we All can do this! Now that my pep talk is finished you take care of yourself, walk and sip... in a couple of days you will feel better and in a couple of months you will be amazed at how you feel!

I hope your surgery went well. Take it easy,give your body time to rest and welcome to BandLand!

Sending warm thoughts your way Julie!!! You are now banded....YIPEE!!! You are going to love this new way of life and I know your are going to succeed!! Give us an update when your up to it.

Well, I have to say with similar stats and height, I am very scared and wondering if this is the right answer.

But what scares me more is NOT doing this.

I agree. I am similar in height and weight also. I am scared not to do it.

Well, I have to say with similar stats and height, I am very scared and wondering if this is the right answer.

But what scares me more is NOT doing this.

I agree. I am similar in height and weight also. I am scared not to do it.

Oh now I see. Definately afraid NOT to.

Thanks pplqueen!

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