I read and researched for over 6 weeks before I discussed my desires to have the Sleeve with my husband. He is the king of negative! I knew I would have to "educate" him somewhat, because the only knowledge he has is with my sister's RNY experience. (She has done great, btw, except that she is 18 mos. post op and she JUST started taking her Vitamins and supplements! So, until recently she didnt look very "healthy")

One week ago today, I talked to him. I was proud of him, as he didnt shoot me down. He told me he would support my decision. He asked me if I thought it was a "necessity". I asked him to go to a seminar with me, and he told me I needed to figure out how I was gonna pay for it before we started doing all that.

I am working on the money....

This morning, I made pancakes from scratch and he was talking about how he didnt see how the kids could eat 3 pancakes because he couldnt even eat all of the two he had. (He has NEVER had a weight problem, btw) Then I said after I have my surgery I will only be able to eat this much, and I cut off a chunk about the size of a half dollar.

Then he burst my bubble!!! He said "I sure hope that is the answer for you! Because I dont really think that is gonna be it!" I didnt even say anything...argh!

It makes me not even want to talk to him about any of it!! Even if I have always failed at my diets....I do believe this surgery is a necessity for me....I do not think it is the easy way out.....and I know it will be the answer I am looking for!!!

It sure would be nice to have him "support" me fully....just dont think he knows how to do that!

Sorry for the rant!

Karen

Glad to hear things are getting better. It's best when you have the support.

So how did your surgery consult go? I hope everthing is fine and that you have a date set now!!

Good luck, we will always be here for you!

My consult went great and I am scheduled for June 28!!!

Why is it that the ones we love and who love us, hurt us the most? I'm sorry that he did that to you. But you know, it may be his own insecurities coming out. He might be saying these hurtful things cause he knows it'll work as it has for your sister. Husbands are weird creatures of habit, they think if they can hurt you enough, you'll just forget about it and stay the same. . it's a comfort thing for them. Believe me been there, done that. . . you go forward and get that surgery, it'll work for you just as it has for me! Your going to be so proud of yourself and your going to like yourself again! Good luck honey, don't let him get you down! He's only doing it cause he is starting to worry some. . .

CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! On getting a date!!!

Gratz on getting a date! That's awesome.

For work reasons, I called and changed my surgery date to June 21.....Woohoo! A week earlier for me!!

much better than a week later : )

hope it all goes great for you!