I guess I just need to get this off mt chest, I'm a wreck right now.

It is really hard for me having a son 9 yrs old who can't sit still has fits, lies, I don't know if he is the bully or the bullied.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Is anyone out there that can help me sort?

Our son went from a walk out of class student to a A a/b student on Rit la 20 but his behavior and attitude hasn't changed at all.

He has a big mouth and nothing to back it up, he only has 2 friends in the neighborhood the rest are who ever biggest friend kind of crap. They always start fights and call him names then he'll say something and can't back it up with his fists.

He lies to us he throws things when mad I'm just lost!

Today our son came home w/ a black eye. They had a sub driver and none of the kids sat in their places. Our daughter says he tried to sit in the seat behind his when the lil boy pushed him and says "no don't sit here" Dar said there's no where Else to sit and sat down and the lil boy punched him in the eye. No report was made the driver did nothing. I called the school and I know tomorrow I'll get the normal Dar prob. started it crap.

It doesn't matter who started it no report was made, and he was punched in a eye that he has had surgery on and will again very soon.

Even though I don't think he did start it, the kids on the bus are always trying to get kids to fight.

I'm so happy school is almost out! Just makes me want to go back to home schooling them!

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I feel for you Nana - My 8 yr old has been on Concerta after being on Strattera last year. What a differance it has made. He has never been aggressive and has in fact exceeded the teachers expectations after having a rough start to the school year. He was just tested for the gifted program and in 1 out of 3 areas he excelled. Next school year he will be on a gifted watch list.. all

Regardless of who started the fight the bus Driver should have done something. Regardless if they have labled your son a problem child he still needs to be protected from the kids that know that they can do anything to him and then turn it around and say he started it.

GoodLuck.

i second paul's post. My current boss is going to school to become what she calls a "Physiological Psychoanalyst" LOL Basically she is studying how what we put into our body, and how we treat our body chemically effects our state of mind and the way our brain works. I do not have any experience with ADD or ADHD, but her kids is an ADHD child and was on meds for years. He started getting suicidal, and they took him into the doc to diagnose more problems. The doctor announced he was also Bi-Polar. More meds. The child actually did his own experiment and weaned himself off the meds without his mom knowing. He totally changed. He became calmer, got better grades, saw things clearer and the suicidal tendancies went away. He was 14 at the time. So strong and smart! This made his mom realize that the meds, while they do help some kids, should not be the first answer. He is now doing great, and manages his episodes with coffee and a natural diet high in fiber and certain vitamins.

Plunder, I am a mother of a 17 ADHD son. Diagnosed in Kindergarden, but I knew WAY before...Some suggestions, which may/may not have been mentioned.

1) Read all you can. Here's is a good read w/lots of info .SchwabLearning.org - A Parent's Guide to Helping Kids With Learning Difficulti

2) 504 and IDEA are federal laws and they are different. Even if you son doesn't qualify under IDEA (special education), he will qualify under 504 (civil rights law) w/an ADHD diagnosis. 504 has helped my son, the last 2 years (modifications, content mastery, shortened assignments, longer time to complete work). If you want, you can get the ball rolling this year (if he's been diagnosed).

3) I've tried it all. Biofeedback, nutritional supplements, diet, and several medications. Remember, medication isn't a bad word. No parent wants to put there kids on meds. It's not an "easy out."

Please e-mail, if you want some info. or support. I really am knowledgeable and can point you in the right direction.

Take care. Shawn