Hi everybody my name is Letty. I had lap band surgery in 2010. At first I lost 50 lbs, then I got stuck at the same weight. I got discouraged so I have not seen my doctor since august of this year. Cause I gain my weight back . I feel like I fell at my weight loss and my doctor will be mad and disappoint at me. I want to see my doctor but I am scared.. Help I feel so alone.....

Don't worry about the Dr. I am sure you are not the only patient that he has with this problem.. You need to get back on that horse... If you can go back to the basics and follow the rules you will be successful. I have never succeeded at losing weight and keeping it off before.. I am determined no matter what this time to get it done... I am 30 lbs from my goal and I am losing slowly but I know if I stick with it I will get there. It's easy to get discouraged but keep reading post on here.. especially the ones who have lost their weight and have been able to get their lives back... go back to your Dr. .. he is the one that can help you...

I agree with Sharpie.... The aftercare is very important. The doctor is part of your team. Plus the nutritionist, psychologist, support group(s), books, articles...etcetera.Get to the doctor and get back on track.Goid luck.

Letty, he will not be disappointed in you! Don't give that a second thought, call him and make an appointment, you need to go. I too fell off the wagon and regained some of my weight. Finally went back to the doctor, started following the rules again and am having success....again. You can do this!

Ditto! I'm so glad I stopped the skid when I did! I'm back on track now and it's worth it! Before surgery, I remember looking at pictures from 20 years ago, thinking that if I had done something then I wouldn't have had so far to go. Imagine how happy you will be when you realize that instead of gaining more weight and being heavier than pre-surgery, you stopped the slide and caught yourself before you went too much further.

I was embarrassed and ashamed to go in and acknowledge my screw up, but - trust me - he wasn't surprised, nor was he outraged. We put so much shame on ourselves unnecessarily! It's such an intensely personal journey and we have felt like failures for so long! We get used to hiding. It's so incredibly freeing to stop hiding, hold my head up, and keep going.

Please go back in to your doc and work with your team! You can do it if you do it for yourself. Don't let the shame and discouragement keep you paralyzed!

Shelly

As a nurse, I am here to tell you that it is not our role to guilt, scold, or harass our patients. A good doctor will evaluate your progress and help you identify what went wrong AND how to get back on track. Education and support is paramount from your medical staff. If everyone was healthy and compliant we'd have no jobs <wink> On the other hand, the one who is actually doing all the guilt tripping is you. Because you realize that you let yourself down and now it's time to face it. We all have had setbacks. Some have stalled on their wl for months, years. Others have gained some to all their weight back etc. This happens because we no longer abide by the rules AND we no longer work with our support team (docs etc) to get back on track. Keeping the band in green is the lifeline to having a band. Finding excuses to not go to the doctor will keep you out of the green and that is a guarantee for failure. So no more sulking...get up and call your doc for an appointment!

Thanks everyone for the advise and support. I really needed the support right now. I am going to call the doctor on Monday morning for appt. I really not know how to use this website to talk to other people but weight loss struggles, etc.