I started out just telling my husband, sister and mom. Slowly I told my closest friends and a few people I work with. My father was the convo I was reluctant about - weight (mine, specifically) has always been the minefield for us. I was going to wait until after I had the surgery but my mother really wanted me to tell him before going under anesthesia and after I got approved I relented.

The conversation went fine. He was totally supportive - if a little confused or unsure of himself - he clearly didn't want to say the wrong thing and upset me.

We are still walking the tightrope. It really bothers me that in my heart of hearts while I know he loves me no matter what, he will find it easier to relate to me when I'm no longer obese. But I know he wants me to be happy and healthy and it feels good to have finally told him.

Who was your most difficult "tell"?

Surprisingly my family has been totally behind me with some reservations from my eldest children. However the one I truly hated to tell was my boss. Her teasing gets to the point of bullying sometimes. I know this will be held over my head at work.

my best friend was my challenge.. She doesn't have a weight problem and had made comments in the past about working out, etc.. but surprisingly when I told her my plan for surgery she was 100% supportive .. so much so, she made the 3 hour trip to be with me during my surgery and stayed all night in a chair beside me in the hospital.. I realized how lucky I was to have her as my friend... my husband was always very supportive.. now that I have lost a good amount of weight, I tell anyone who ask .. I think there are a lot of people who would benefit from surgical intervention with their weight struggle..but are perhaps afraid to have surgery..

I just recently told my mother and she had a fit at first. But the I had to explain that it was not the gastric bypass . My husband has been soooo supportive and telling me how much better I'm going to feel . My mom is going to my preop appt to my surgeon with me . I just have her permission to tell my dad n ordered h to keep his mouth shut because he is a gossip box. Andy oldest sister just dropped the phone when I told her. Funny !! She said if anybody has researched this , u have. I'm not telling coworkers because the talk n can b caddy. Not even my best friends.. I'm just gone say I changed my eating n got a personal trainer. Which wll b true. They don't need to know right now. Sometimes ppl act funny knowing u r making better changes in your life . Ppl get scared that you will no longer be the fat girl in the group ??????©???®???‚! Well So long to being a fat girl !