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Change of body

I am down to 178 from 265 and now I am more ashamed of my body than before. My husband loved the bigger me and accepts the smaller me..but I am having trouble being intimate with my husband because of the hanging skin. I use to prance around proudly in my outfits as a big girl now you wont catch me in any light without being fully dressed..my thighs are the worse. We went to Vegas and in the restroom of our room was a full size mirror, first time I seen my new body and it was ghastly..i look like a Sharpe. Has anyone have this issue and what is the best thing to do? I feel my self esteem is going away with the weight. I actually thought I would love the new me, but I don't. Please help.

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I'm hoping to avoid the loose skin with lots of exercise but since I have so much still to loose I studied up on the loose skin problem.

Your skin is an organ it will adjust with time but it may not adjust at the rate you'd like. You can look into plastic surgery; some insurance will even provide coverage with weightloss but you should wait until your weight is stable unless you start developing skin ulcers or other skin problems. In the meantime try to build up the muscle underneath with weight training. Also keep in mind if you were heavy a long time you probably had a lot of your self image connected to that weight; you may not have an objective view of yourself in the mirror. Our brains affect what we see more than we think.

I know exactly how you feel. Since Nov 2012 I went from 305 to 220 and I still have another 40 to lose. My skin is starting to get loose, I'm also 23 I excersise A LOT hence the rapid weight loss and I was only extremely over weight for 2 years. Honestly I think the only thing is genetics and elasticity in your skin that will decide if your skin will snap back or not.

My arms and thighs are quite wiggly, I don't care much about my tummy because I've never in my life showed it off, but I do as well feel more uncomfortable with my body then I did 5 months ago. That being said I've worked so hard to become healthy, and if I have too I'm willing to pay for plastic surgery. Just try to keep in mind how much healthier you are now, and have extended your life time. Give your skin some time to catch up with your new body. I just wanted to let you know your not alone, I deffinately understand how you feel.

Thanks for posting this. I have come to accept that I am going to have body issues...fat and thin. I have also come to accept that being thin will not make me automatically happy. There are lots of aspects to that! Maybe you should talk to someone about your new body issues? Maybe that would help clear your head about it?

Congrats on the amazing weight loss!

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