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Realizing that the band is NOT connected in any physical way to my brain!!! Had some upsetting news yesterday and came home to eat bread and butter.... My " pre-banded " life go to comfort foods.

And I suffered most of the evening. Not pb'ing ,just that uncomfortable, tight feeling.

I realize that I should have taken a breath and maybe done some cleaning, or any physical activity.

Today is a new day and yesterday I learned a lesson!

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I'm still struggling with emotional eating. I was doing well with it (or so I thought) until this past week with work issues.. :( My problem is late at night after my kids are in bed, the house is quiet and I start wanting to reach for food.< /p>

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If I only ate when I was physically hungry, I would not have gotten the band. emotional hunger, habit hunger, reward hunger, boredom hunger are what put the fat on me. There is article on the site http://www.lapbandta...to-swallow-r110 maybe you can gan some insights from it on how to handle it.

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Thank you ,Terry! Great article. And what to my surprise should I see when I open the page, but a photo of someone eating a pint of ice cream !!!! This could be me! I have been carrying on an affair with Ben and Jerry's New York Super Fudge Chunk.! Today is the day I call off the affair and deal with my emotions like a grown-up.

The emotions of eating with the band are something I didn't realize would be so powerful.

I deal with the physical parts every day, but I now will include the emotions of food in my routines.

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I have said this too. If I never ate when I wasn't hungry...I wouldn't be fat. :) I suspect this will be a constant conscious act from here on out. Thank you for sharing your glitch. I'm sorry you got upsetting news today.

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Thank you ,Terry! Great article. And what to my surprise should I see when I open the page, but a photo of someone eating a pint of ice cream !!!! This could be me! I have been carrying on an affair with Ben and Jerry's New York Super Fudge Chunk.! Today is the day I call off the affair and deal with my emotions like a grown-up.

The emotions of eating with the band are something I didn't realize would be so powerful.

I deal with the physical parts every day, but I now will include the emotions of food in my routines.

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They are so obvious now, because the band is putting the physical hunger into the background. They were always there, but where hiding behind your physical hunger. Now that their mask has been pull off, they stand there in their ugliness and we have to start admitting to ourselves why we were really eating. I can't count the number of times in the last couple weeks that I have thought to myself "OMG, how much was I really putting into my body???"

Keep your eye on the prize, and find different coping skills that will serve you rather than control you.

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bad at work, pms, fight with hub, inlaws on the way over, breaking a nail......all triggers for me to run to the nearest mickey dee's and a lot of coors light........def emotional eater

that was then, here is now...i go for a wee walk, or drink my tea or come to this forum and blog or go to my private thread and vent....i know now that its only hurting me to pig out/over eat....but the thoughts are always near by...

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Happy,sad,bored,mad,nervous, upset, excited, you name the emotion, I ate through it. Hello 274 lbs.

I just recently had the news that I needed surgery. My first thought, I want a cheeseburger with everything on it, why not, I deserved it. I should get a treat for having to go through this. Just one won't hurt, just this once etc....

Boy can our minds work it all out.

What I did say to myself was "shut the hell up", no you don't deserve it, I deserve health. Things happen, deal with it. No, one won't hurt now, but what about next time and the time after that and the time after that (you get the picture). I'm in control here, not you emotions, so shut the hell up!!!! I can tell myself off good.lol

What happen was I stuck to my Drs plan and what I got in return was Pride, surprised me, when it came to myself I never had that before. And I liked it! I like it A LOT!

So the next time my brain tells me what I deserve and need. I'll be ready ! I need my health, I need pride in myself, I need to listen to my stomach, not my emotions.

It's such a good feeling! A psychologist might think talking to myself might be weird, but it works for me.

I wish everyone success with telling their emotions to "shut the hell up".

You make a mistake, don't let your emotions say anything, it was a mistake, learn from it and move on.

There is always going to be stress in our lives

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I love you Maddy. That is all. :) lol well said

Love you too girlfriend!

To myself: I know destynee saying she loves me makes me all warm and fuzzy inside, but you don't need food to seal that deal. Glow in the warm and fuzzy all by itself!

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Warm and fuzzy it is!

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Well said. I don't do enough of telling my mind to shut up. I feel like I have no choice sometimes, but I know I do. I'm doing much better with the emotional eating. I will say that I'm becoming more aware of it again. At some point I didn't even know this was an issue for me. I'm better and more aware. I'm trying to maintain my work outs. Sore muscles remind my mind (well a little).

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