I am currently 5 months out of surgery exactly as of today! My husband and I got married Nov 16th of this year and the hot topic of having a baby has been on the table.

I need some thoughts.

I have only lost 30 lbs and have been plateaued for about 2 1/2 months.... my dieting has been rough. I wanted to get down 90 lbs in my first year so I am way behind. I also have an appt on Thursday to check on my fills.

I know the Surgeons say to wait at least a year before getting pregnant but we just really feel ready.

I am just scared that if we do this then my hard work a d struggles with be for nothing.

I am open to any and all comments at this point. My hear says yes but my brain says tread softly!

At 23 I would say wait!

I am 25 my husband is 23... my parents were 23 & 25 when they had me so I guess I see from their view it worked out great...

Oh I say definitely wait!!

I am 25 my husband is 23... my parents were 23 & 25 when they had me so I guess I see from their view it worked out great...

I totally understand what you are going threw I hit my 1 year mark November 7 2012, my husband and I had been trying for 5 yrs to conceive and nothing. I decided to have the lap band done and I still have my struggles, my doc wants me lose 45 pounds more before I start again to conceive. I was so upset with myself because having a baby means everything to me I have my own issues with cravings still so I let myself down. Now I'm ready to take back control and get this weight off I just hope and pray it works. The best of luck to you.

Yeah I think the clock ticking is an issue. Ever since I was a little girl I had wanted to have my family started by 23 just like my mom did... well I am 25 now and going on 26. I have always told myself I do not want to have kids after 30 so I feel like I am getting too close to that window. Maybe that is part of my wanting to rush it.

I did tell my husband last night that I might need to be selfish and just wait... I really don't want to but I feel like it's the right choice.

I know what you mean! I will be 27 on Monday and I feel like I should have already had a baby. My mother had me when she was 21 and I liked having a young mom growing up.

However... For me even a year makes a big difference in my maturity level, my patience, etc. my husband and I have been married for almost two years now but I like the idea of waiting a little longer to focus on us. I'm hoping that by 30 we start trying for kids. Hell, I have so much I want to do after I lose this weight and I don't want kids to stop me lol so I say wait, enjoy your husband, and enjoy yourself as you lose weight and get healthy