I have had one of the worst days of my life today. I finally got a date from the surgeon yesterday. I should be happy right...well listen to this....

I just started teaching school in January, but I have been very up front with the school and I told them I might be doing a surgical procedure this year. A month ago I talked to the director and he told me no problem, just to let them know when I needed time off. Today I went to talk to the director to tell him that I have a date and I will only be taking 3 days off (yeah, thats right...3 I made sure to schedule it in between 2 holidays so that I will get a week off but only need to take 3 days)

The first director that I had talked to was to busy to talk to me and his secretary told me to make an appointment. Then I went downstairs and I saw one of the other directors and mentioned to him that I needed to talk to them, so we went into his office. When I told him what I was there for, he said he couldn't BELIEVE that I would spring this on them knowing I had only been at the school for 3 months, THEN he proceeded to tell me that I have always been overweight and that he knows I have a problem and that I should exercise more and diet...and basically telling me what to do with my life....

Then he proceeded to tell me that some one complained about me eating all the cakes in the waiting room. (they usually put a plate of 10 to 15 miniature cakes in the morning) which is complete and absolute trash! I hardly EVER eat any of the cakes mostly because I don't like them. I also am part owner of a cake factory myself! If I want cakes I'll bring them from my own store...and 3rd of all...thats just gossip. And I couldn't believe he was repeating that to me.

I basically told him that it was non of his business and that I was there as a courtesy to let them know what days I would be taking off. It took almost everything I had not to burst into tears in his office. He apologized (in a smart ass kind of way) and said he shouldn't have made those comments and THEN he went on to say that he wouldn't do any thing about the other problem. It took me a few minuets to remember what he was talking about....he meant about me eating all the cakes!! What the hell was he going to do? Forbid me from eating cakes?? WTF

Now I'm not even sure if I should be doing the surgery, its bringing all kinds of problems at work, and we are going to be stretched for cash paying it all and my husband isn't so sure....and gawd.....help me guys.

I really admire your restraint in that awful situation...I would have been in tears from frustration and anger. And now i'm glad you are able to put it behind you and do what's best for you. Best wishes on your surgery...hope everything goes very smoothly. You sound like an amazing lady~

Emily

Thanks so much for such sweet comments... a lady huh? Sometimes I feel like I'm still such a kid. Every one trying to tell me what to do. I hope for everything to go smooth too...I have had to deal with a lot lately from every one about this surgery, and I just want to get it done with so no one will say any thing else about it and I can be left alone.

Thanks for all the support guys!

Hi - Sorry you had to deal with that! Wow, you took it well. I'd be wanting to :boxing: after remarks like that!

Glad he apologized, that was the right thing to do. I told my boss in confidence and got an email the other day from our assistant director congratulating me!!! I was a bit miffed, found out the reason why she told her my plans was because they were discussing workload issues. Well...it happens that I'm not planning on staying out for the 2 weeks unless I absolutely have to. The workload isn't going to be that much.

I'm going to be taking just under a week (April 26 to May 1) so I'm hoping I'll be ready to go back, but after the big deal they made about the 3 days I'm asking for I'm afraid to ask for any more. If I'm still not feeling well, I'll just call in sick.