I need a little vent time. I haven't told many people I was banded (8/13/12), but I did tell my closest friend. I explained to her that I wasn't telling people and to please keep it to herself. Well, last night, at a very crowded event (a large fair) her husband offered to buy me some dinner/fair food (very bad- all fried) I refused but thanked him. He turned to the people we were with and said "She wasn't satisfied losing weight the natural way, she had to go have surgery" I was shocked that he would make that comment for so many reasons. I'll talk to him today when I get a chance, but it was such an eye opener about how people view what we have done. I was also glad that I was basically with strangers that I only see once a year.

I hope you get to talk to your husband. Sometimes men act like they understand and support us when deep down they don't. If he thought u were taking the easy way out he should have discussed his feelings with you before erring it don't and not in public. I never understood why anyone would want to keep it a secret. I'm waiting for my surgery date and I'm telling everyone. The only thing I asked my friends and family was that they let me tell people and don't gossip about it. We need to teach others that there is a way thru thus thing called morbid obesity! The people that judge have no idea how it feels to go to a doctor thinking you are fine and them telling you your obese. Take the surgery as a teaching tool while you are saving your own life you could also be helping someone else save their own. That should be enough to make you feel like this is more than an easy way out

The best revenge will be at the fair next year.... In the meantime as you plan to I would take him aside and explain how you can understand how he may have questions about your weight loss surgery and how you would be happy to explain it to him...however it's really non of his business and certainly not his place to discuss it with others. Remind him ever so sweetly that if he doesn't have anything nice to say to keep his mouth shut!

Just curious... Is he overweight?

Something similiar happened to me. I was having a birthday party for my grandson and my sister announced "Yes, I would like to lose weight too, but I am not going to the EXTREME of having surgery to do it!" I did NOT tell her about the surgery for this very reason, but my mother felt like she needed to know.. . .

I told a few people and now many know. At first I was embarrassed but now I have decided I love my band and could care less what others think of me. I'm happy and getting healthy and my husbands happy, so screw everyone else. When they ask I proudly talk about my choice.

Ouch! how insensitive.