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Have you been eating healthy? Have you been exercising? - there you go, your response. We keep saying that the band is a tool and you have to do the work, take credit for the work.

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Really, all you say is I've been eating healthier and exercising, it's the truth.

No need to lie!

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I've had the surgery Feb 2012 and was recently asked by someone at work what did I do. I lied!! You have to know who to tell and whom not to tell bottom line!!!!

So when you went out for surgery what did you tell you job? I don't want anybody at my job to know. Not even my boss

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SO' date=' if I ask a contractor HOW he built a house and he replied, "With a lot of hard work and effort on my part", this would be a lie? I tend to think not! The contractor used many tools and resources to reach his goals and I would not expect him to explain to me the importance of using a hammer, versus using a nail gun, to accomplish those goals. At the end of the day, you are totally responsible for your weight loss and the band was simply a tool. Tell 'em what you want them to know and simply be proud of your accompishments, because I know we are!

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Dennis you are so right on.. I love your comparison cause if ypu ignore house maintainance or you take short cut the house will fall apart.. Fast or slow it will deteriate!

To tell or not to tell. Your choice completely. At the beginning of my journey I chose to keep it a secret, swore the hubby to secrecy and all. Then when people started noticing the weight loss I told one, then two and before I knew it I was telling everyone. When you are ready you will tell or you may keep it as your little secret. It is your choice and your choice may change. As mine did.

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So when you went out for surgery what did you tell you job? I don't want anybody at my job to know. Not even my boss

I have major heartburn problems and so I said I was going to get a hatial hernia repair ... It wasn't a lie. They don't need to know the rest!

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I have major heartburn problems and so I said I was going to get a hatial hernia repair ... It wasn't a lie. They don't need to know the rest!

I was going to say the same thing, but people r so nosey they might try to look at my excuse and say why are you going out of state for a hernia repair and then try to google the name of the hospital. Crazy

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Are you a liar? By omission perhaps, but I personally believe it is a dis-service to give the easy lap band answer. It discounts the REAL work and effort that we all have to put in to e successful. And you know what? You gain weight on the lap band if you don't work with it! Give your self a break. I tell medical personnel who need to know and only immediate family and 2 very close friends. Even at that both of my daughters disapproved. We do need support, but you have to be careful where you go for it!

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I have told a few select people...as I drop more and more people I have found I am easyier to tell some lots of hard work and I had lap band...they see how good I am looking and see me out walking they are happy for me....

Yesterday I was at a doctors appt with my son and his doc asked me...wow have you lost alot of weight..( she also is very heavy) I smiles and told her yes I had....she was genuinly interested and asked how I had done it...my first responce was...lots of hard work...but then I said...with lots of help from the help of lap band...she told me she also was looking into it and was glad to see fantastic results.....you just never know who we might help with a tough desion.....:).

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wow my computer messed that post all up...sorry

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wow my computer messed that post all up...sorry

LOL, Don't you love it when computers think they're smarter?

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LOL, Don't you love it when computers think they're smarter?

ahem....cough cough gag gag gag

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I told everyone that would listen to me!! I was so happy and proud to be getting the lap band. Everyone I know knows about my band and everyone has been really supportive.

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I do think its a little white lie, but I don't think you're a bad person for it.

Personally, I've told everyone for fear that they would have found out on their own anyway and then think I'm a liar. Some have been very judgemental but I really couldn't care less..... At least that's what I tell myself.

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I have only told three close friends. Not even family. To be flippant, when people are nosy enough to ask if my hair color is "mine" I always say "yes". its mine, cuz I paid for it! The tools I use to lose weight is no one's business. Now 3 years down the road, when I've bean at goal for awhile, I may change my mind, but for now, I do not feel like sharing so much.

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