Guys I was banded 4/20/12 and fluctuate between 193 and 199 pds. I have had only one "fill", 1 cc since I was banded. I had two appts for "fills" but the doctor would not fill my band because my allergies were acting up. I am a little discouraged. I initially went to lap band consult and weighed in at 217 pds. The day of surgery I weighed in at 199 pds.....I lost those 18 pds on my own. So today when I went to my visit the PA told me that I want to achieve weight loss due to better eating habits and NOT because of RESTRICTION,...........I am somewhat confused!!!!!! I thought the point of having the freaking band placed is to cause satiety due to restriction along with better eating habits..........maybe I didn't get the memo..........if that was the case then I should have went to a nutritionist and never got banded. I really need feedback here becuase I still consider myself a NEWBIE. I am not trying to be negative whatsoever I just didn't like what I heard from this PA regarding her methodology of the band. I don't feel restriction and I am only maintaining my previous weight loss. Please tell it like it is because maybe I am doing something wrong and not "working" with the 1 cc I have in my band. Thanks!

I am sorry, I would usually not even comment on this, but I found that your use of the term hefer to be pretty insulting.

I understand how upsetting not getting the right support can be, but why would you go around insulting other fat people? You don't know her or her weight struggles, but you know your own and I'm guessing you sure as hell wouldn't want a stranger calling you a fat hefer so why would you do it to someone else?

I'm guessing your words were written out of anger, so I've said my piece and I hope you're able to get a fill at your next appointment.

LOL! You have got to be kidding me.......really? Wow.........I am at a loss for words........except to point out that you just said, "why would you go around insulting other fat people?" FAT PEOPLE.....DID YOU JUST SAY FAT PEOPLE? NWgirl ya gots three fingers pointing right back at ya. Oh and I didn't call her a fat hefer.......I called her a hefer.

LOL! You have got to be kidding me.......really? Wow.........I am at a loss for words........except to point out that you just said, "why would you go around insulting other fat people?" FAT PEOPLE.....DID YOU JUST SAY FAT PEOPLE? NWgirl ya gots three fingers pointing right back at ya. Oh and I didn't call her a fat hefer.......I called her a hefer.

I'm sorry, but isn't it realistic to say that we are fat, no? Isn't that the reason why we are all here? So my use of the word fat is not meant as an insult, like your use of the word hefer. You've since edited your post, but you did call her fat in another part of the post, so I was just combining your terms.

Like I said, I was just trying to remind you to be mindful of others struggles with weight, even when those people upset you.

I'm sorry, but isn't it realistic to say that we are fat, no? Isn't that the reason why we are all here? So my use of the word fat is not meant as an insult, like your use of the word hefer. You've since edited your post, but you did call her fat in another part of the post, so I was just combining your terms.

Like I said, I was just trying to remind you to be mindful of others struggles with weight, even when those people upset you.

Oh don't get so upset..................think of it as me using the term hefer as a term of endearment for someone that gives horrible patient care! I could have called her a lot worse.....

I never liked the word "FAT", whether I was in my thin stage or heavy stage of life. I myself prefer the word "FLUFFY". I absolutely hate hearing anybody refer to someone as "FAT". I even reprimand my husband, who has gained some weight over the last few years, for saying snide remarks about overweight people. This overweight issue is a disease we have. We are addicts, I have read so much since being banded 4 years ago and I am a FOOD ADDICT, there is no two ways about it. I will always have this fight to keep where I am with or without the band. I had gained about 8 pounds from last winter and am now starting to get it off, it is truly a struggle but if I don't do this now, it will become 10 pounds, 20 pounds, etc. until I regain the 90 pounds lost originally. I will never be cured but am healthy and happy where I am now. Please always keep in mind, we have been up and down before, it could happen again whether you have the band or not and we could be right back where we started. I believe you just had a bad experience and were just venting and that is good. Not good to keep the anger in. Now go on and find a good doctor to take care of your needs and move on to bigger and better things. Good luck.

I never liked any of those words! It still pains me to admit that I used to be "obese"... it's hard to say that word... Anyway, I just wanted to post to agree with the folks who suggested that you change PAs -- actually, if you can change doctors, maybe that would be better.

And yes... the WHOLE POINT of having a band is that you should be able to use it at good restriction! Those people are nuts!!

Oh well -- once you get to good restriction, you'll lose without undue trouble, and this will be just a distant memory...

Best wishes for your success,

Catherine

I never liked the word "FAT", whether I was in my thin stage or heavy stage of life. I myself prefer the word "FLUFFY". I absolutely hate hearing anybody refer to someone as "FAT". I even reprimand my husband, who has gained some weight over the last few years, for saying snide remarks about overweight people. This overweight issue is a disease we have. We are addicts, I have read so much since being banded 4 years ago and I am a FOOD ADDICT, there is no two ways about it. I will always have this fight to keep where I am with or without the band. I had gained about 8 pounds from last winter and am now starting to get it off, it is truly a struggle but if I don't do this now, it will become 10 pounds, 20 pounds, etc. until I regain the 90 pounds lost originally. I will never be cured but am healthy and happy where I am now. Please always keep in mind, we have been up and down before, it could happen again whether you have the band or not and we could be right back where we started. I believe you just had a bad experience and were just venting and that is good. Not good to keep the anger in. Now go on and find a good doctor to take care of your needs and move on to bigger and better things. Good luck.

Wow Catherine you are such an inspiration! You look great! I hope that I can attain the success you have! You could be a pin up girl in that dress! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

I never liked the word "FAT", whether I was in my thin stage or heavy stage of life. I myself prefer the word "FLUFFY". I absolutely hate hearing anybody refer to someone as "FAT". I even reprimand my husband, who has gained some weight over the last few years, for saying snide remarks about overweight people. This overweight issue is a disease we have. We are addicts, I have read so much since being banded 4 years ago and I am a FOOD ADDICT, there is no two ways about it. I will always have this fight to keep where I am with or without the band. I had gained about 8 pounds from last winter and am now starting to get it off, it is truly a struggle but if I don't do this now, it will become 10 pounds, 20 pounds, etc. until I regain the 90 pounds lost originally. I will never be cured but am healthy and happy where I am now. Please always keep in mind, we have been up and down before, it could happen again whether you have the band or not and we could be right back where we started. I believe you just had a bad experience and were just venting and that is good. Not good to keep the anger in. Now go on and find a good doctor to take care of your needs and move on to bigger and better things. Good luck.

I never liked the word "FAT", whether I was in my thin stage or heavy stage of life. I myself prefer the word "FLUFFY". I absolutely hate hearing anybody refer to someone as "FAT". I even reprimand my husband, who has gained some weight over the last few years, for saying snide remarks about overweight people. This overweight issue is a disease we have. We are addicts, I have read so much since being banded 4 years ago and I am a FOOD ADDICT, there is no two ways about it. I will always have this fight to keep where I am with or without the band. I had gained about 8 pounds from last winter and am now starting to get it off, it is truly a struggle but if I don't do this now, it will become 10 pounds, 20 pounds, etc. until I regain the 90 pounds lost originally. I will never be cured but am healthy and happy where I am now. Please always keep in mind, we have been up and down before, it could happen again whether you have the band or not and we could be right back where we started. I believe you just had a bad experience and were just venting and that is good. Not good to keep the anger in. Now go on and find a good doctor to take care of your needs and move on to bigger and better things. Good luck.

Thanks Sparkplug...............I did get a fill........0.5cc's yesterday. I actually had 3 cc's right out of surgery and 1 cc placed at post surgery visit. Your reply is encouraging.........and yes I am going to move forward and stay positive. Being angry is a waste of energy.............