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Second Thoughts

So lately I have been wondering if this was the right decision to make I was band 3/21 and im really not liking how I have been feeling lately I get sad when I look at my scars constantly having this feeling of phlemge in the back of my throat not sleeping well at night because of constint adjusting I just wonder was thus the right decision I made im just really on eased about this right now

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Good luck. I have not Been banded yet and I am having second thoughts. I look so fat in pics though and its only a matter of time before the health issues come. Stay strong. You can do it.

this is so right. as for me?? i was not only overweight but unhealthy looking, pudgy in the face, swollen feet and legs. now, after just one week, my face is transforming rapidly back to its proper shape. ive had lots of comments from people since friday when i went out. this morning again, heaps of comments on how much better i look, how good i look. even my hubbie as commented. so... hang in there everyone, you can do it, and whats more, you will.

this is so right. as for me?? i was not only overweight but unhealthy looking, pudgy in the face, swollen feet and legs. now, after just one week, my face is transforming rapidly back to its proper shape. ive had lots of comments from people since friday when i went out. this morning again, heaps of comments on how much better i look, how good i look. even my hubbie as commented. so... hang in there everyone, you can do it, and whats more, you will.

Good for you Judy .. :)

Good for you Judy .. :)

thanks Cazzy .. you know?? im just stoked?? ive got my feet back to nearly normal, no pain in my lowers... way to go !! im on cloud nine already... lol.. so thats each end of me so far... now for inbetween.. lol... all those hills and valleys.. lol. i wonder that will go.. lol.
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I have the cloudy day lap band blues here in Los Angeles today. But let me tell you it cheers me up to know my struggle is onward and upward unlike last year when I would comfort myself with food and end up in that disasterous cycle.

Good Luck to you. Remember its something we all go through in all our different ways but this is a place we can ask for help and support without shame and without judgement.

Lots of luck and good energy being sent your way.

I defiantly agree like you I was a emotional eater I am so happy to know that this feeling is only temporary and my rainbow will becoming soon!

I defiantly agree like you I was a emotional eater I am so happy to know that this feeling is only temporary and my rainbow will becoming soon!

Hang in there girl. It gets better, especially when things get rolling and you can see why you're doing this.

I, too had that moment. I was getting in bed with my husband who I love dearly and it hit me. I want to be healthy but I also want to feel sexy at the same time. So, as i put my sleep mask on (UGH) and looked at my incisions, I thought wth did I do. Now that I am losing weight, and enjoying small achievements-I know that I did the right thing. Everyone has to decide what they are willing to sacrifice. This is my sacrifice and I plan to make it work. Is it and will it be tough at times-absolutely but so is anything that is worth having. Give yourself some more time. Everything will get better. Look at your small achievments. :D

larch... i agree... you are never too old to want to feel sexy for your man, take it from me. i would much rather have some faint small scars on my belly than have mountains of belly rolls and bad health to boot. amen to that.

I am sitting watching an old biggest loser US ashley says to her mother, 'but mum what if i go into the house and cant do it', mum replies, 'but what if u can' ........ that to me was a defining moment in thinking that this mountain i had to climb was just too big.

Allow yourself those moments of regret then move on from them, you will look back at this time and smile believe me .. i am still smiling now !

I am sitting watching an old biggest loser US ashley says to her mother, 'but mum what if i go into the house and cant do it', mum replies, 'but what if u can' ........ that to me was a defining moment in thinking that this mountain i had to climb was just too big.

Allow yourself those moments of regret then move on from them, you will look back at this time and smile believe me .. i am still smiling now !

Cazzy... good on you... keep looking forward and dont look back. you are young and have an exciting future ahead of you, where your health and weight will be a real asset to you. you CAN do it. (( hugs ))) judy
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I dont know if some are religious but today my god spoke to me yesterday was a really rough day for me I began to question my decision on my WLS but as I was listening to bishop TD Jakes he explain that sometimes god will tie you up (i.e lapband) in order to help you get to your destiny and utilizes you in his will so I now know that this decision could never be a mistake but simply a blessing

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I am sitting watching an old biggest loser US ashley says to her mother' date=' 'but mum what if i go into the house and cant do it', mum replies, 'but what if u can' ........ that to me was a defining moment in thinking that this mountain i had to climb was just too big.

Allow yourself those moments of regret then move on from them, you will look back at this time and smile believe me .. i am still smiling now ![/quote']

Thank you I will remember that

I am glad you are feeling better today. This pain and discomfort will pass soon and you will feel good again. Keep your chin up.

thank you guys so much for support the weather here is really cloudy and grey which is really not helping me either but your support truly does help

You're definitely not alone.... Maybe Try some extra Vitamin d? Especially if the weather is cloudy.... Low Vitamin D levels have been linked with depression and the blues.

Post op blues are actually SOOOOOO common, and not many people realise it and adjust their minds so that they remember, when you're in pain and feeling like crap, and your body is coming off anaesthetics, and you can't see the immediate results of the surgery, that of course you're going to feel like crap.

Be kind to yourselves, everyone. Unlike, say, a boob job, where you can see the results immediately, the first few days can feel like all pain and no gain. But it will get better in time.

I dont know if some are religious but today my god spoke to me yesterday was a really rough day for me I began to question my decision on my WLS but as I was listening to bishop TD Jakes he explain that sometimes god will tie you up (i.e lapband) in order to help you get to your destiny and utilizes you in his will so I now know that this decision could never be a mistake but simply a blessing

God will definately meet you exactly where you are at, thats for sure. I agree with TD, you help make it a blessing. the ball is in our court now.

My friend who had WLS said that pretty much everyone goes through a "what the hell have I done" phase, and that it DOES pass. I have been having those thoughts from time to time, especially since my hubby didn't want me to spend the money to get the surgery and hasn't exactly been supportive. It helped me to journal all the reasons I wanted to do this in the first place and all the benefits I expect to gain. I was saying just this week that I thought the weight would come off faster and hubby said" IT is a marathon, not a sprint." Hang in there, take care of yourself emotionally, and the down phase will pass.

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