I will be banded Nov 19. I'm so nervous and frightened. I have all the normal fears. I've tried to stop reading this forum because it causes me to have very bad dreams.

Just tell me that you all went thru this awful anxiety. It makes me cry. I have a lot of family/friend support, but I don't think they truly understand.

My biggest fear is that I will have complications and regret my decision.

I so want it to be this time next year when I'm past all this and maybe down 75lb and look back and think how foolish I was to be so afraid.

My surgery is tomorrow and I am barely able to sleep this last week. Constantly having bad dreams and when I wake, I am thinking about this procedure and all the possible "problems". I am SOOO relieved to hear that this is normal too! Thanks all for sharing.

The one consideration I have to offer is, what all will you have to face if you DON'T deal with your weight issue now, while you still can? Do you want to wait for the heart attack, stroke, diabetes, etc. to take their toll?

I saw first hand all of the pain and suffering and multiple surgeries that my mother and father both went through due to arteriosclerosis, and neither of them was all that big! I concluded that I can either suffer a little now for a much healthier and brighter future, or I will pay a much greater price down the road.

So, I am putting on my "big girl" pants and doing what I know I need to do!

Dear MamaJ: You just put the realization up in front of me. So very true what you say. I remember when I was going to be a mom, before the birth the anxiety that kicked because of the unknown. This is the same type of feeling...but the new birth will be mine.

Dear MamaJ: You just put the realization up in front of me. So very true what you say. I remember when I was going to be a mom, before the birth the anxiety that kicked because of the unknown. This is the same type of feeling...but the new birth will be mine.

Hi CJ,

Thanks for reminding me! I had all of this exact anxiety going in for my c-sections all of those years ago!

I think that if I wasn't a little anxious about it, I'd probably be ill-prepared. To go into something like this with no idea that there is some pain involved and that things might not go perfectly smoothly every step of the way would lead to disappointment. The anxiety has made me read a lot of posts and learn so much in advance. I suppose I should be grateful :-)

All the best to you in a few days, and hang in there with the pre-op diet!