My mom, dh and MIL are very supportive. My FIL says I don't need surgery I just need to back away from the table:(

And my friends say Why are you doing that? Your not even big enough to qualify. Then they are shocked to find that I am big enough to qualify. I think I'm through telling anyone and I'm going to keep it to myself until after surgery.

You are stronger than I am. I chose not to tell anyone about my surgery other than my husband.....and my 2 & 5 year old boys.....they know that mommy has an ouchy on her tummy.

I just wasn't sure what peoples reaction to my surgery would be. I didn't want them commenting or questioning me about my decision to have lap band surgery. I used to think that I didn't care what others thought of me, but I think now I am the opposite. I might care too much and couldn't handle the thought of my friends and family talking about my weight. Does that make sense?

Either way, if you are sure in your decision for surgery then it really doesn't matter what your friends or FIL has to say about it. Stay strong and just remember that you are doing this to better YOUR life. Hmmmm....maybe I should take my own advice!

Good luck with your surgery!

I completely understand how you feel! I am getting the same responses. I am just 5'1" and wear my weight very well, but I am also 210 pounds. No one believes it! And I always get the you are not big enough lecture. Well I am big enough to have diabetes, high cholesterol, sleep issues, ect - so I guess I am big enough to make my own decisions!

I am with you ~ I have given up tellling anyone else. I am just going to move forward for the exact reason I have decided the lapband is what I need ~ a tool to enable me to take better care of myself.

I completely understand how you feel! I am getting the same responses. I am just 5'1" and wear my weight very well, but I am also 210 pounds. No one believes it! And I always get the you are not big enough lecture. Well I am big enough to have diabetes, high cholesterol, sleep issues, ect - so I guess I am big enough to make my own decisions!

I am with you ~ I have given up tellling anyone else. I am just going to move forward for the exact reason I have decided the LAP-BAND® is what I need ~ a tool to enable me to take better care of myself.

you have a good point there. Maybe that's what I should tell my friends. I'm big enough that I have sleep apnea, hypertension, GERD and arthritis in my knees. I'm tired of hurting and not sleeping well at night and I want to be able to run and play and keep up with my 3 kiddos.

I have not told anyone but DH and his Sister, I took her to the

support group with me Saturday,

My Psych. Dr said that I should tell Family, friends and co-wokers because I have to changes my eating habits.

I know a number of people that told others about there weight loss surgery,

and I hear what my family :thumbup::cursing: and other friends :lol:have to say, I'll tell them after the surgery.

I have chosen to tell only my husband and one coworker. My boss won't even know. To make a long story short, I did this 2 years ago with the Realize Band & had it removed due to a surgery mishap. I had told a few people and they told a few people. I was asked at every turn how much weight had I lost, and blah, blah, blah...

Edited July 22, 201016 yr by dm5201