I am getting very nervous.I told my husband that he will have to cook for five weeks since I will be on liquids. How can I cook when all I can have is liquids. It is time for ME. I HAVE to get healthy. Am I wrong ? Can I stand there and cook food that I cannot have???Will it be to tempting??? Am I worried over nothing?

I am continually amazed at hoe "helpless" we allow grown men to become. If mine doesn't want to cook, he can go out. My kids never eat what I cook for them anyway. The weird thing is that I love to cook. I see it as a different activitiy than eating. I actually see myself maybe cooking even more because I'll have the time to do it. I just won't eat it!

I guess I've been very blessed with my DH as he has been really helpful throughout all this. I'm 3 weeks post op, and on mushies. My kids are 9, 7 and 19 months. My 9 year old is a GREAT help in the kitchen and will usually make dinner for himself and his brothers. I stocked up on frozen TV dinners when they were 10/$10. They love the things. Even my 19 month old! His favorite is the chicken nuggets. For my husband, I bought him some HungryMan meals and some frozen pizzas (well, for all of them, really). Now on mushies, I just make what all of us can eat. Scrambled eggs, baked beans, baked fish, tuna fish, stuff like that. I also make some stuff I can't have and that the rest will eat, but it sure makes meal preparation easier for me.

Dinner time isn't always a family time for us, so I try to make it so at least 3-4 times a week. No matter what we all are eating.

Just some thoughts,

My husband does as much cooking as I do, and is just as good. When I was on liquids, he took care of the meals most of the time. It was about 2 weeks for me. Then, when I was eating regular food again, I would make sure I could have the protein portion, but would skip bread or stuff I can't have...but I'll make it for them. It's no big deal to me. For sleepyjean...I felt like you do once upon a time, but then I met DH, and now I believe!

I have also been recently banded and am still on the liquid stage. It is hard at times oh man does my stomach growl and sometimes I think I thougt it was gas pain but it was actually hunger pains. HURT SO BAD! and I have tried gax-x but it just does not work that good for me. I actually find my self cooking now more than before. It's almost as if cooking and looking and smelling the food is satisfying to me. I just keep thinking ("I can't have this now but I will in about 5 more weeks". " I won't be on liquids forever and this time will pass" "It will be ok but I have to have self control and portion control".) I had gotten away from cooking because I was so depressed about being fat. Now I am trying real hard to have a whole new attitude after surgery and I have more energy it seems like I am pepped up and excited about my future weight loss. As a result I am cooking more and cooking healthier for the whole family so that when I can eat normal food they will have been a little used to the difference. I am buying more fruits and veggies leaner meats such as turkey and chicken burgers. They had that last night for dinner and did not mind at all. Of course my children are 71/2 months,4 yr and 8 yr so they eat whaterver I tell them to eat. And my husband has been so supportive of all of this. He started losing weight about 3 years ago when he started working out everyday at the gym.Of course he asked me time and time again to go with him but I would not ( too embarrassed). Now he is getting me a membership to go with him there too.

Sorry if I rambled I just said what came to mind. Just try and do like and do and focus on the long term not the moment.

Hope this helps and good luck on your weight loss journey.

sleepyjean - I am so sorry you feel that way about marriage - it can be so much more -

comfort, love, laughter, friendship, familiar interests, joy, exploration of life, travel, fun, passion, sweetness, soooooo much more than you are understanding it to be.

Ladysplenda - I cooked every night for my DH - I made gourmet meals and told myself that I was not going to hide from food. I still make the same gourmet meals and now I eat along with DH - but much less. It never bothered me - but I enjoy cooking and would have missed it had I stopped just because I got the band.

I never consider the fact that I am on a diet.....it just doesn't feel that way.

Take care - nancy

I do not mean for him to sound so BAD.The man cant boil water.