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hehehehehe :-)

I wish we were close geographically so I could just hug you. *HUG*

eek! Can't wait for the rest of the story!

Made me tear up too. As a mother and grandmother I understand about getting healthy for "them" but I think to overcome your fear and anxiety you have to decide to get healthy for "you". You are the one that has to live in your skin, no one else.

Getting the VSG is the best gift I have ever gotten let alone done for myself. I actually caught myself getting resentful that I waited so long to get it done (I'm 57 next month) but you know what? This is all in God's timing - He loves me and knows exactly what I need and when I need it.

He loves you too :-)

yep, a lot (if not most) of us were raised to clean our plates. Wasting food is sinful even! My husband's family were very poor when he was growing up and you ate what you could when you could and as much as you could. Now that we're not poor well... it's really pretty dangerous to have that mindset. My family wasn't as bad off but my mother's family was so "wasting food" was a terrible thing to do.

I managed to break that cycle with my own children and grandchildren - they have to taste something new and eat a reasonable portion of their meal (I have had several try the "ok, I'm done. What's for dessert?" trick). Serving up appropriate sized portions takes practice too.

Being more than a year out, I don't have trouble gauging my portions nor do I have trouble throwing food away. It takes practice (hey, we get to practice several times a day!) and conscious eating.

I used to clean off OTHER people's plates too. Then one day I realized the truth that I am NOT a gabage pail. Sounds silly, but that is exactly how I was treating myself.

Keep at it!

We should all treat our family members with atleast as much respect and kindness that we show total strangers. I think everyone is correct in guessing that your mother is being passive aggressive due to her concern.

Then again, we don't know your mother

Back off a bit, give her a few "Yes, Mama" and "I love you Mama" and don't fall into the argument traps that she is setting.

The decision to get the VSG and to radically change your life should be lauded! Embrace the power you have taken hold of and enjoy the ride!

WEEEEE !

and make sure you sip sip sip that water !

wow, what a nightmare ! I am so sorry your are going through all this horribleness. Are you under a nutritionist's care? It seems that you will have very special nutritional needs and you need to have professional assistance and maybe even custom made supplements. I pray to God that you heal completely and that you can move on with a healthy, happy life.

sorry to hear that you're having to go through this ;-( Good thing you did go to the ER ! I pray your surgery goes well and your recovery is quick and painless !

absolutely! I turned into the Wicked Witch for a few days. I couldn't even tolerate myself. I was enraged.... all the time about everything! Hang in there, don't hurt anyone, and it will get better.

It actually sounds like the VSG has worked wonderfully for you!

hahahaha cute! Thanks for sharing your very own Chistmas Story :-)

All I can say in support is that this is just a holiday, not your normal modus operandi. Try not to stress yourself, relax, and enjoy your vacation! You may have fallen off the wagon but it will wait up for you

Is this place a Bariatric Center of Excellance? If not, find one. If it is, go for the 2nd opinion and after you get accepted, lodge a formal written complaint against the first doctor. She should be a vet. Atleast if she treats a dog badly the dog can bite her.

Lord, blessed be your name! Please restore this woman's health and strength. Let her rejoice in your wonderful provision. All glory and honor are yours, Father.

happy big 30 :-) Carpe diem !

If your lunch time workouts were exceeding your allowed lunch period is there any way you could start work 15 minutes earlier & stay 15 minutes later to make up for it? I hate to see you give up your swimming.

*hug* we are new creations but dang it, the old dead body is still with us! I encourage you to try again to find someone who will prescribe you a medication that alleviates your anxiety and doesn't try to kill you.

I seriously think that the more time we have to contemplate the state of our own belly button lint, the more unhappy we become. Or maybe it's just me. My life is so totally full of disaster after disaster after... well, you get the idea... that I don't have the time nor the energy to "enjoy" all the facets of change that the VSG introduced. I am still just really thankful that I had it done and that I am losing weight.

Maybe I should write a self-help book: "Life of Strife = Pathway to Oblivion" or some such thing

*BIG HUG* thanks for being you

well... the nice thing about the sleeve is that actually we can't give up. If you don't have a nutritionist you can ask questions of just search on this forum for what other people are eating.

And then do it :-)

Don't sit at home feeling lonely. Hey, if nothing else, you have a computer and internet access. And how is the weather where you are? Here in KY the summer heat is over and it would be a wonderful time to take the children out to play or for a walk. If you live in a town or a city, I'm sure there is a playground you could visit too (and also meet other parent's of young children).

I know it's hard to reach out for friendship but the best way to meet friends is to be friendly. Makes sense, eh ? :-)

You have to get distracted by something more important than your weightloss. Right now I am in the midst of battling uterine cancer (surgery, chemo, radiation, etc.) and my weightloss is really REALLY secondary :-) So... I pray that you don't succumb to any illness but read what you wrote yourself - when you were on vacation weightloss was pretty far from a concern and by golly, you lost weight !

Live your life, enjoy your new lighter self, and be totally confident that you WILL lose weight because you WILL !

On a completely non-philosophical note, when I got the chance to go to college I was terrified of math. I had avoided it in highschool (took "Business Math"). I found an old book titled "Math Without Fear" and it walked me step by excruciating step through very simple math concepts and it even helped me really understand what algebra was all about. It gave me enough confidence in my abilities to tackle college level algebra, statistics, technical math, and even accounting (what a horrible 2 semesters THAT was !). I don't know if it's still in print but it is a great investment if you can find it. Good luck !

It's also ok to reassess the situation at a later date (i.e. change your mind) . I pray you heal quickly and completely !