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dot check donut disrespecting - they are ga-rosssss ! paleo food truck ? wow..... "missus boyfriend" ? - you poor thing OP - it will be ok. truly. I have inoperable carcinosarcoma and it is amazing how unimportant most things are these days.

hehehehehe :-)

being diagnosed with some other life threatening disease/disorder brought to light because of so many pre-op tests or because of becoming accutely self-aware of how your body is functioning (mine is cancer, and because of the latter reason).

Went to a restaurant last night and didn't have to ask for a table, just sat right down in a booth - no problemo. Went to granddaughter's 4th grade orientation "blow out" at school and didn't even think about scouting out a place I could sit and rest. Went shopping and playing and then more shopping and didn't feel like I needed to lay down to recover. I think the key word here is "went" . I have been able to do so much more of everything !

Yes, I sometimes regret that I can't eat a lot of food like everyone else. Which is exactly why I needed the VSG

wow ! Just imagine how you'll feel and look by this time next year! Your parents have given you the gift of life - twice. God bless them and you !

SeriouslyChange: there's a reason it's called "the miracle of birth" - squeezing something the size of a cantalope out of your body whether vaginally or via c-section is incredibly painful. One part of the miracle though is that, atleast for me, after I gave birth, there was no pain and no real memory of the pain. I guess that's a gift from God; otherwise no sane woman would ever get pregnant a 2nd time

Most of my co-workers are happy for me. Some think that WLS is the "easy" way out. One guy that always greeted me with "hey hey hey" (if you're old enough, you'll remember that's from the Bill Cosby cartoon Fat Albert) is no longer greeting me at all (probably because he hurt his foot and has gained atleast 80 lbs in the past few months). So, everyone is different. Still doesn't affect how I feel about me. OP: your supervisor is either not interested in your project or not interested in you. I don't know how you can fix that.

wow. Some remarkable transformations. I won't be doing this to myself 'cause ain't nobody gonna see me nekked except for my husband or medical personnel and I am 57. Now, if I were 30 or 40 ? Yeah, for sure. I really just want to be able to move and do more like, well, a normal human. I don't want to be disabled until or if I am disabled for a reason other than body mass. Does that make sense? I'm not really vain and the older I get the less vain I am. Now, if my loose skin prevents me from doing the things I want to do then yes, I would get it removed. Just for looks? No. I have heard that it is a horrendously painful and dangerous operation.

nut girl !

I dunno... the normal-sized stomach humans would all be miserable and hungry and we'd be happily munching away on locusts and what-not and getting satisfied.

and it's not just us that has to adjust. My adult daughter told me, "But Mama, I've never known you not-fat. How will I relate to you?" It is a big change and although GMan is right, we are not our fat, we are going to change. I think a big part of remaining true to oneself is being aware of how we are changing. Be conscious.

wow. That is a lot of truth packed into 15 simple statements. Thanks for posting! I think I should read it several times a day over the next year

I wish we were close geographically so I could just hug you. *HUG*

bklyngal87: do you have a manager? Even though this man from India was a visitor, you do not have to accept being abused by him. And that is exactly what he did - he abused you. I hope you relayed this incident to your management. If a doctor, an educated person, can be that stupid and rude what hope is there for the rest of humanity? Gosh... don't you just wish you had a pocketful of zingers - "That's right. I really AM gorgeous, aren't I ?" or atleast "Didn't your mama raise you better ?" grrrrr

eek! Can't wait for the rest of the story!

Made me tear up too. As a mother and grandmother I understand about getting healthy for "them" but I think to overcome your fear and anxiety you have to decide to get healthy for "you". You are the one that has to live in your skin, no one else. Getting the VSG is the best gift I have ever gotten let alone done for myself. I actually caught myself getting resentful that I waited so long to get it done (I'm 57 next month) but you know what? This is all in God's timing - He loves me and knows exactly what I need and when I need it. He loves you too :-)

Mouse: I think you hit it - people react differently to you now because YOU act differently. I think there are a lot of people who are repulsed by the morbidly obese. Being there myself, I still have to stop myself from looking at other obese people with pity in my eyes. If *I* have trouble, my Lord, how difficult must it be for someone who has never been overweight? I always used my size as a shield. It worked well. Now I use my age. HA!

I wish I had known that food withdrawal would turn me into a raving, maniacal, get-in-my-way-and-I-WILL-kill-you witch for a week in my 2nd week post-op. It was kind of scary (atleast that's what my husband says . I was ok when I got to the mushy foods stage.

Even though the circumstances of my life are sometimes really intolerable, I have always been a happy person. I am very blessed that way. I happen to be married to a man who no matter what the circumstances are, he isn't happy. I always expect the best of people & situations and am usually disappointed. He always expects the worst, and is never disappointed. I still prefer my way of looking at life. As far as being happy with my body, oh yeah, I am a LOT happier now.

Are you on blood pressure medication? After I lost 100 lbs I found that I was getting dizzy when I was standing in church singing. Checked my blood pressure and it was 120/70. So... I stopped taking my bisoprolol and after a week or so, no more dizzy. Three weeks after that I saw my PCP, told him about taking myself off the meds, he checked my blood pressure (132/80) and said, "Well, I'd say you don't need to take them anymore." woot !

yep, a lot (if not most) of us were raised to clean our plates. Wasting food is sinful even! My husband's family were very poor when he was growing up and you ate what you could when you could and as much as you could. Now that we're not poor well... it's really pretty dangerous to have that mindset. My family wasn't as bad off but my mother's family was so "wasting food" was a terrible thing to do. I managed to break that cycle with my own children and grandchildren - they have to taste something new and eat a reasonable portion of their meal (I have had several try the "ok, I'm done. What's for dessert?" trick). Serving up appropriate sized portions takes practice too. Being more than a year out, I don't have trouble gauging my portions nor do I have trouble throwing food away. It takes practice (hey, we get to practice several times a day!) and conscious eating. I used to clean off OTHER people's plates too. Then one day I realized the truth that I am NOT a gabage pail. Sounds silly, but that is exactly how I was treating myself. Keep at it!

Three-dom ? Tri-tastic ? I think your Tres-town is the best :-) Congratulations !

nice :-) I had an unexpected NSV yesterday. My grandson was playing on the kitchen floor and he managed to bunch up the rug in front of the sink. I was at the stove, didn't realize there was a hazard behind me, and backed up to get to the sink. I *almost* went down but was able to catch myself with the counter midway to the floor. My husband was impressed :-) I have hurt myself several times by slipping and not being able to stop myself from falling. Woo hoo!

I think sometimes my tone of love, sympathy, and encouragement gets lost in the ether. I don't like being attacked, tumblersmom. I don't know what you're going through right now but please, cut me some slack. Nothing I said was meant as an insult or an attack. Heck, I know all about spellcheckers too - I was just razzing you about the "riotous". Did you miss the smiley face? Get happy !