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Hi there...You are under a lot of stress and my heart goes out to you, my one and only son had medical issues as well growing up which entailed a lot of ICU stays in many hospitals, some close to home and some far away from home, so I can relate just a little because your load is much larger. This is just a thought because I am totally not in your shoes honey but you know when we get on airplanes and they go over the drill and tell us if an emergency happens, even if we have kids we are to put on our oxygen mask first before securing it on our kids because if we cannot take care of ourselves first then we are no good to our children...so try your best to take a little time for yourself and regroup, prepare some healthy snacks and make food that you can get to quick and not make the worst choices, you went through a lot to have surgery and you deserve to be healthy and feel good too. Make a meatloaf, bake some chicken, (food that you can get to quick and heat in the microwave) buy protein bars, pre-made protein shakes etc. that you can just throw in your purse when on the go taking your daughter to the hospital...I know it's hard but take care of you so you can give the best care to your children. Our children mean the world to us and we would rather endure their pain if we could switch places, but mommy please take care of you first (it may sound selfish, but it's really not) so that you can have the strength to care for your babies. I think you did the right thing my reaching out on the site because we get you and understand...if you mess up and eat something bad it's ok, we are all imperfect humans and you are aware of it so you are to be commended considering what you are going through. You will get a lot of good advice here Take care of you and your kids and we are here for you ((Hugs))

I tell anyone who asks. My ID photo is old so it comes up a lot too. My manager at my old job site got the bypass before me and he's the one who encouraged me to at least look into it as an option. Dude did me a huge solid with that and if I help anyone else out the same way then it's just paying it forward.

I made cherry and strawberry sugar free finger jello hearts for my daughter. Idk how good they would be for a party? Lol

I had to do the 2 week pre-op protein shakes and it was very hard for me but I was like you and had all of my "supplies" (Jello, broth, sugar free popsicles, and of course my protein shakes) beforehand. I lost 17lbs from the 2 week pre-op diet alone but it was difficult and knowing what I know now, I don't think I would have started earlier than I was required.

Wow! What a crapton of stress and worry! I get it! Life definitely happens while we're trying to improve ourselves!! I think the idea of having low carb/low fat/healthier options on hand will be very helpful. I also think it's important to get up each day (only take that 1 day) and make a 1-10 check list of plans. Scratch them off as you complete them. Make doing self-care part of that plan. Cuz if you're well, the kids will be healthier. Try making yourself a deal for 1 day only. Make a deal not to have ANYTHING sweet all day (whether or not that is sugar or sugar subs). And include making it a no crap day--so no chips crackers etc. If you need to clean all the crap out of the pantry, frig and freezer! The kids don't need the crap either! Lock it in the trunk of your car if you must! Then any time you're hungry, drink a glass of water as quickly as you can. Then wait 20 minutes--get busy with something else. If at the end of 20 minutes you are still hungry and it's not time for your meal, then have a small protein and veggie based 100cal snack. Follow your rules of eating/drinking. If it is time to eat, then have your meal that you've planned. The rule is that if you're hungry, you eat protein/veg at 100cals per pop. No sweet. I use things like boiled eggs, al dente steamed broccoli, raw veg like leafy greens, rbp, carrots, celery, etc. If I'm hungry enough to eat, then I will eat a boiled egg and some veg! Hard to binge when you're full of boiled egg and veg! Then once you complete the day...do it again tomorrow. Just only commit for 1 day. If you screw up, then continue moving forward taking the next best bite. Don't throw the day away cuz of a slip or an isolated meal or snack. Put the snack in the trash, get the crap out of the house...etc. You can do this. It IS worth it! You are worth it. Your family is worth it. Find a counselor!!! Talk to your doc and RD!!!! Get them to help. It is in their best interest to help you through this rough patch, cuz you are part of their outcomes of surgery. They want to have good stats.

That's a great number

I have found I really don't like most sugar free drinks anymore, they are either too sweet or too artificial tasting

I think that you're the only one Kathy lol...It started for me after losing about 30-35 lbs and yes I researched it and it does state we are losing our cushion (fat), I'm cold now everyday and before surgery I was hot flashing like crazy and could never sleep in socks, now I sleep in socks. I try to bring a throw to work everyday...It's a good thing to me 😁

Congrats on your progress!!

I am always cold, but i was always cold before surgery so i dont notice a difference.. LOL.. PPL used to say to me.. your the only person that lives in Florida that i know.. that is cold all the time LOL