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Like @ms.sss I too lost more than my original goal because it took a while for me to work out the calories I needed to maintain. That is the number of calories my body needs to function. Eat fewer calories, you lose weight. Eat more than your body needs, you’ll gain. I slowly increased the calories I was eating as I was physically able until I reached the number of calories I needed to maintain. I lost another 11odd kilos over a year after goal. Been happily sitting at about that weight (+/- 1kg) for about 9months. But I’m really still a newbie. Time will tell. I do have wriggle room if I do succumb to the 5 odd kilo rebound gain in years 2 or 3. Even though my BMI is on the lower end at around 18.7, I’m certainly not bony nor look undernourished. Honestly, you can look a little drawn when you get near your goal but it all seems to settle after a couple of months. Eating a little more: a few more carbs, vegetables, fruit, etc. all helps. A year ago, my uncle very kindly (not!) told my mother I looked like death. Now he tells me how great I look. As for looking older. I don’t think I do. Most importantly, I can actually see my real face now: cheekbones, jawline, eyes, etc. because there’s no fat distorting it shape. You may meet your goal, you may not or you may exceed it. Age, genetics, weight loss history, metabolic rate, etc. influence how much weight we can lose after surgery. But let’s be honest (some straight talking coming), in the end we control what we put in our mouths & that is the biggest influence on our weight. I think your weight is individual. Not just a number on a scale or a number you’re ‘supposed’ to be but how you feel in your own skin. Happy, healthy & enjoying life.

For me, the biggest issue is waiting an hour after eating before drinking (supposed to stop drinking 30 min before eating, which I usually do, but sometimes that is more like 15-20 min). I knew it going in but I didn’t realize how difficult it would be. I honestly thought not drinking while eating would be harder. But after I eat, I feel like I am watching the clock for that hour to pass, especially once I get past the first 20-30 min.

Yes, people loved my ex. Except my Dad, he saw through the mask he wore for everyone else. My family was very supportive because the last straw involved the kids. I went and had my haircut and he told my toddlers that this is what (very derogatory terms for females look like). I didn’t want them to remember this and I didn’t want my daughter growing up thinking she was an object to be ruled by men. I will admit that the loss of his income was hard. I felt lonely being single but I focused my mind into work and my kids. After awhile, I started to love who I was. Whether you decide divorce or a separation is up to you. You know you better than I do. If you choose to stay, I would not belittle your choice. As I had tried to leave my ex four times before the last. I wis you luck and will praying for you. I hope you get your surgery and my thoughts will be with you when do.

Had mine done outpatient. Insurance covered it as part of WLS revision. Pain was minimal but my stomach felt heavy when walking for about 3 weeks.

“Too thin” is all relative. You won’t know at what weight will look “too thin” to YOU, until you get there, and when you do, it’s generally quite easy to stop (just eat more or more higher calorie stuff).. To date, I have only read of exactly ONE person on here who got BELOW normal BMI range and truly struggled to stop losing weight (and i’ve been on here for almost 3 years). Most peeps stuggle got to get/keep the weight off. Granted, i’ve read of people who lost a few more pounds after entering maintenance, but I don’t think anyone was truly unhappy about it for very long (i’e., weight came back or they just ended up liking being thinner). Personal anecdote: I got to normal BMI range and stopped before I reached my original goal of 120 as I too felt like i was looking too thin at 127. Ended up losing a bit more, but not because the lbs were just melting off by itself, but because it took me a couple months to transition from consuming weight loss calories to consuming maintenance calories (like breaking a habit, physically AND mentally). Eventually I stopped at 115, and have been sitting here (+/- 5lbs) for over 2 years. Funny thing is I think (and others agree) that I looked waaaaay more drawn and gaunt immediately after weight loss phase at 127 than I do today at 115 (i think it’s because of the carbs, lol) Good Luck! ❤️

Since I started this thread, I am down 11 lbs. Trying to stay motivated and keep myself in a good place. I started talk therapy, virtual because of rises in covid cases.

I had surgery in the same day as you and. Just went through a similar experience. I was stalled with no weight loss and gaining and losing the same pound or two for a week and a half. I just kept following my regimen and suddenly yesterday ai was down three pounds. I figured my body was just adjusting to the until weight loss and just trusted the process. That was really hard for me because on previous diets a stall like that would totally derail me. I am pretty proud of myself for sticking it through. My doctor said everyone's experience is different except for that first stall 3-4 weeks out. She said universally everyone experiences some sort of stall.

The best tasting and highest protein drink I have found, and I've tried a lot, is Fairlife Core Power vanilla. Tastes fantastic, and has 42g of protein per bottle. Because the calories are a tad higher than recommended, I drink half a bottle at a time, which is fine because the bottles are fair-sized. Sent from my KB2007 using BariatricPal mobile app

I have these thoughts too (I'm pre-op) so what I have is a list of things I want to experience in various places through my house. Sitting in a chair without having to do mental physics first. Not having to ask for a table instead of a booth. Being able to fly coach and not say a prayer to whoever the patron saint of obesity is that the seatbelt will just close. Being able to run more than 400 m without dying. And honestly? When the "what are you even DOING right now" feeling gets overwhelming, I come here and just lurk. Y'all have no idea how many times you've kept me from canceling things... thank you.

I think you are doing great as well. What an idiot your surgeon is. You know they are really good at what they do but most do NOT have any people skills whatsoever. Keep on doing what you are doing and when you reach your goal weight you can strut in there and show him he was wrong.