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Without surgery it could take you longer if you are still eating above maintenance calories. Before tackling weight loss surgery you will need to tackle the drinking and compulsive eating...have you seen a counsellor?

I personally wouldn't start a day 1 since for most of us, that's just liquids. Go back to when you first started on solid food - for me it was protein first, then non-starchy vegetables - and then if I still had room, a small serving of fruit or whole-grain carb. Measure/weigh everything and be sure to track/log it. I always go back this when I get off track for more than a couple of days.

You are smart to correct your wine habit now, pre-surgery. This is a hard journey. The best I've ever undertaken. But it's hard. And there is cross-addiction susceptibility among our community. And drinking post-wls can be terrible for our bodies and also contribute to regain.Even thought it will delay surgery, it will benefit you in the long run. Praying you can find a group that works for you. I don't think alcoholics can "cut back." I think there's too much back sliding. Do one thing at a time. Take care of the booze problem first. Then clean house and fill it with nourishing food. And start addressing binge eating/night eating. Maybe even seek personal counseling for substance abuse and disordered eating.

Ok....got it thanks...I will pull all the literature out now

Oh, and you need to document when you start your programs/counseling cuz no surgeon will accept you into their program without a verifiable specified length of time in recovery. It varies from doc to doc. Mine would want 1 year sobriety in a program and you have to show proof of start date and proof of sobriety. It's that big a deal.

My nurse practitioner suggested I cut back to 1 or 2 glasses a night, however I haven't been able to do that. Tonight I'm sober because I'm so tired of being overweight.

So it would take two years to lose 100 lbs? I just can't see that happening. Thanks for suggestion about the sugar free hard candy!

I'm so sorry that your family members have treated you with disrespect. My mom made a few comments when I was young about losing weight, although I was only maybe 15 pounds overweight, nonetheless it makes you feel less than. I have 2 adult children and to be honest I have worried about their weight. Neither is overweight, but I know the challenges I have faced and don't want them to ever go through that themselves. However, I would never comment negatively to either one. My so is a body builder, and that has worries, and my daughter has always been small. Maybe your family cares but has a shi*** way of showing. Anyway, do what is best for you and do not feel guilty not telling anyone. I have a lot to lose & really don't care who knows, but we all need to do what is best for our own self. Best of luck on your journey!😊

I wouldn't have told a single person if my doctor hadn't insisted that I have someone stay with me up to 24hours after the procedure. One person knows, a friend who came with me, I stressed the importance to her of my privacy. I certainly don't feel bad or guilty about not telling anyone else. My body my business. I understand your concern with your partner, if he has disclosed past confidences you made to him, how can you trust him not to do it again.

I hate to admit this, but I have a problem with wine...drinking a bottle a night kind of problem. That's probably part of the reason I've gained so much weight. That and my compulsive eating. Stopping is hard so I've started going to recovery meetings. I realize you're not my doctor, but I do value your opinions. Do you think it would be better to see how much weight I can lose by not drinking rather than get surgery? Surgery is a hugely important step. On the one hand, I want the surgery to help me lose a lot of weight fairly quickly (it would take forever for me to lose 100 lbs). I know I'll have to stop bad eating and drinking habits and take better care of myself. However, I want the tool of surgery to help me. Is my thinking way off track? Am I putting too much faith in surgery and thinking of it as the easy way out?