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Hey today is great day.... WLS has saved my life in so many ways. I have more energy self esteem and overall healthy than I have been in a long time. Yesterday I slipped into a size 14 capris and a large top!!!! I never imagined wearing a size 14 because it has been soooo long! Just wanted to share that I have lost 50 lbs and I am closely approaching my 6 months mark... I am praying to get down to a size 10 that would be totally awesome and my highschool weight(lol) I have been trying to exercise more and really stay active,. I pray for much continued success to all TD41

Everyone has a different idea as to what the ‘Green Zone’ should be like, how it should feel. How tight do you need to be in order to be in the zone? Some like to be really tight where as other like their band a little looser. I have experienced my band being ‘nice and tight’ so to speak. I never felt physical hunger, but there was food I couldn’t eat like chicken breasts and vegetables. I would cook a wonderful meal for the family and then find I couldn’t eat it. I also found that it would take me over 30 minutes to eat. I hated meals; I would get frustrated and found myself turning to slider foods like cheese and crackers or peanuts. I struggled to maintain my weight from week to week and I was miserable. This was not the lifestyle I wanted so I had my doctor take out half a cc of fluid from my band. The result is I can eat any and all foods without problems, I go 3-4 hours without feeling physical hunger and most important is being able to enjoy mealtime with my family. This is my ‘Green Zone’. This experience makes me understand why so many posts say they are gaining weight and they might be too tight. It is very easy to gain weight when the foods you eat slides right down (they can be healthy foods too – mine was cheese & peanuts). I cannot manage my band when it is too tight, I would rather manage my lifestyle and use my band to complement that style. I am a loosey goosey! (Yep I made up a new term)

"You cant be afraid of what people will feel at the expense of what you feel." - Steve Harvey I was half asleep with the TV on when I heard Steve Harvey say this. The topic on his show today is being able to tell other people no. It got me thinking, "Do I say NO enough?" Kids wanna borrow money, if I have it I give it to them. When my friends want to borrow something, I usually say yes. When it comes to compromise it seems that I was always the one bending over backwards to accommodate everyone but myself. Then I decided 6 months ago that I was going to do something for me. I might revisit this topic above at another time.. but for right now I think I will just talk about how I am feeling. Today makes day 6. How do I feel? gurgly hahahaha My stomach is gurgling and talking bubbles. Which is a good thing, my incision sites are not sore anymore and I slept partly on my side last night. (I did cheat though and took some of my lovely liquid codeine to help me sleep) Before I completely woke up this morning I got Bret (who was already up, thanks DD2) to bring me my medication so I could take it the correct way, no chewing up the pills and before I got up and started moving around. I have discovered I am going to take the blood pressure meds a little later in the day, and the thyroid soon as I get up with an empty stomach..haha but as it is now its an empty stomach all darn day!! I got me 2 popsicles, some chicken broth, a lime jello and a small cup of Gatorade....and that was breakfast. This liquid diet is murder, but I can say I do not have any diarrhea. So if that's what it takes then ok. But right now I would fight a wild pack of dogs for just one scrambled egg and a slice of toast. I guess I can tie in the whole no thing after all. For my health, for my healing I have to say NO. To myself, to my kids, to people who want something from me right now. It's not gonna happen. I have to put myself first right now and heal, then I can go back to being the pushover that I once was..lol

You might want to rethink putting your band back in the box after you've lost weight. People who lose weight and have their band removed (for whatever reason) are very likely to regain all that weight. That's mostly because obesity is a chronic,. incurable disease.

Well, Jackie, I was fascinated to see in your profile that you are now 98 years old. That has to make you the oldest troll in the history of the Internet. I can see why you're so proud of yourself. If your parents were still alive, I'll bet they'd be mighty proud of you too.

Just make sure someting has not happened in her world that is bothering her more than you are aware of. It may be general depression, etc. I find it easy to attach my weight loss to people "acting differently" or "treating me differently". Sometime it IS, to be sure. Many more it is not. For instance, I don't want to socialize anymore over long courses of food in a restaraunt. Therefore I do not hang out with people that I spent years sharing quite a bit with. Due to that, they are often out of the loop of something bothering me, etc... Either way I am sorry over your hurt feelings. I hope you feel better soon!

I truly believe that the sleeve changes not only you but the people around you. I have had tons of support, but now that I've lost 61 lbs I can see differences in some people. Even my husband got insecure for a bit. I did reassure him that I'm doing this for me, and not to find someone else. I don't think any of us are prepared for the changes the might occur.

I truly think that this is a natural human reaction. They mean well and want to support you but then feel that they are left behind and you are moving on to become a butterfly. Give her time and look to make new friends in a support group who are like minded. Your life did change and you can no longer be the eating out buddy you once used to be but you are going to be happier and some people have a hard time adjusting to that. I have not been visited at all by my dinner friends since I had the surgery. Strange but true.... they took my stomach not my heart which still makes me a great friend.