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I dont have much family and friends here to support me in this. My teenage sons are oblivious. My mother nit pics and mostly just works my nerves. I dont have a boyfriend. However I have a guy friend who is taking me on surgery day. But it would be unfair to expect him to rearrange his life to look out for me long term. And I'm just wondering how am I gonna do this without the support I'd like from those around me. Any ideas?

Sent while fleeing from naughty food.

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There is no need for long-term care.

If you prepare everything you'll need after surgery, you'll be ready for just about anything and you'll probably feel greatly empowered. By everything you'll need, I mean enough Clear liquids for th time you'll be restricted to them, then enough to get you through each of the early stages on the way to solid food. Get laundry done in the days before surgery, change the sheets in the morning before you go to the hospital. Do some housecleaning before surgery. Etc., etc.

Your friend will be taking you home from surgery, I hope. That's more important than taking you to the hospital. In the days after surgery, maybe you and he can check in with each other just in case you do need a hand with something.

You'll be fine.

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I live alone and was fine. I just stocked up with what I needed, had a lot of clean pjs and besides a ride home I was Okie doke!

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I also live alone and was fine without help post surgery. Though I did find a pair of long handle tongs and a bamboo back-scratcher came in handy for picking things up without too much moving for the few days I had incision pain. Hope you get on ok.

Jo x

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