I had surgery 10/21/2009. I am scheduled to go to the psychologist again this Friday. I'm wondering if anyone else was scheduled to go to the psychologist again post-op. I really don't feel like I need to go or that I'll gain anything by going. I only agreed to scheduling the appointment so that they wouldn't deny me surgery. Now that I've had surgery I want to stop going. I'm not depressed or on any depression medication and I'm not sure why they want me to go back. Is it because they think I will benefit from it? Or because they want more money from an "easy sell"? Any advice?

Mizmo,

I have to say, I went to the pre-op appointments that were required and didn't mind. Although I wasn't required to go after surgery, it was HIGHLY encouraged that I attend support groups afterward. I will have my 2 year bandaversary tomorrow, and I went to the support groups for the first year. I didn't think it would be necessary, but I realized that there are a lot of issues that come up with this. I was glad I went!!! I recommend it. About 8 months out, I had a lot of issues where I could have used a private psychologist, and I didn't go. In retrospect, I should have gone. I had issues with my face rapidly aging with the loss. I also had some very severe issues with my husbands new response to me. He was actually interested in me again, and I was quite surprised by my bitter resentment. I'm passed that now, but really could have used some help initially. Don't rule it out. You'll be going through a LOT of rapid changes, and sometimes your mind just doesn't keep up with it. It happens so fast. Relationships change. Your social life changes. Your image in the mirror changes. Your self esteem changes. Your interest in things and activities change. Sex changes. It's staggering at times. Just be hyper aware of your mental health, and do what is necessary. Don't second guess or put it off. It will make it easier.

Aubrie,

Thanks for your encouraging words. I'm going to go ahead and go and see what we end up talking about.